Re: Alot on my plate... need your help
Well moving on is easier said than done, but it's not impossible. If you were hopelessly "stuck in yourself", you wouldn't have the realization or desire to improve yourself.
When is the wedding? And for what reasons are you marrying this guy? If you're not sure whether your heart is into this marriage........do you think you might need to take a break to sort things out before deciding to marry this guy? Because if you bail out after the wedding takes place.........it's not only your life you're affecting.....it's also his.
Skittlez, first loves can be unforgettable. And I'm not saying that your first love was not a great guy. Maybe he was. But you don't really "KNOW" someone unless you live with them. You only dated that guy before he passed away. You knew him as a boyfriend. You didn't know him as a husband. You loved him as a boyfriend. But you have no idea if you would have loved him as a husband. Know what I mean? You've read stories on GS of girls who fell in love with a guy........who ends up showing his true colors after marriage. I'm not saying that your former flame would have been like that. But think about it.
Let's assume that you marry you current boyfriend.......and although he may not be perefect (let's face it, nobody is perfect)........what if he turns out to be an amazing husband???? And this is possible if you ALSO contribut to making the marriage work. Let's say that he's a great supportive partner....who takes care of you in so many ways. Could you really compare the contributions of your husband to that of a boyfriend????? They can't be compared, Skittlez.