Re: All Of U,i Need Some Advice
I had a shia friend, he fell in love with an Ahmadi girl, their affair lasted 6/7 years and then he finally converted to an Ahmadi and married her. He told us friends that he has not really changed his beliefs and only did it so that her family would let him marry her. It was all very ugly for all of us friends as both families got us involved. I still remember his mother calling us and crying on the phone, his brother asking us to change his mind and all. At one time they even started blaming us for encouraging him. His family didnt attend the wedding and we didnt want to either but then he cried to us that someone has to attend from his side. His mother and brother has not spoken to him or met him since. He even asked us to talk to his family to accept him back and his wife, lekin I dont think anyone even tried to help him out on that. Now he is a lonely man living in NY, sends me an e-mail once in a while, marriage is also breaking down as he thinks he sacrificed a lot and didnt get much in return, you know all the stuff that happens after such marriages.
So my question to you Kiara is that are you willing to make that kind of a sacrifice? My friend was a man, not meant as a sexist statement, but it is the reality in our culture, men do get away with a lot. You, my dear girl, should decide if your love for this man is strong enough that you are willing to let go of the rest of your family. And let me tell you that a lot of issues will be raised when your parents find out about this.
Personally, I would have avoided such a situation from the very beginning, knowing my bounds. You should do that as well, and as soon as possible.