So you learned life doing you own experiments. You always had a desire to be a good person. Finally you achieved it.
Now you have babies. What do you tell them ? How you present you self??
Just let them see how you do things NOW. Or tell them how You used to do them with the desire to improve and how you finally achieved your target.
Very very small example Today I refused to use illegal copy of software. In past I have used it.
It could be any thing cheating in the school. Getting things done in less then graceful way. Any thing. Point is you don't do it any more. You grew out of it.
NOW how you will present your self to your kid ?
parents set examples for their kids.
i know someone who was beating his kids, when told to stop, he said 'my dad never loved me, so how can i love my kids'. what to expect from his kids when they have their kids?
same person has criminal record, wife is very religious but encourages him to do fraud so she can afford her luxury life style. left their daughter under 15 at a relatives home, in a village in pak as they think west is bad influence on her and husband takes the boys (under 10) to adult parties, where everyone drinks, watch movies and plan for their future (fraud).
what will boys be like when they grow up? i can predict their future now.
and the girl, i have always felt sorry for her. even though her parents are alive, she lives the life of an orphan.
i think her parents are bad influence not the west. and if they all grow up as criminals, i dont thinks its their fault.
kids do wat they see their parents doing, whatever good or bad. they will copy them.