All about Pakistani wedding

Sohni649 · January 4, 2010, 10:17pm

First of all, lets get them in the right order:

Mayoun

Mehendi

Baraat

Rukhsati

Valima

Mayoun is, in my opinion, just pointless! I moved to Ireland about a decade ago and back then there was no mayoun, atleast we never attended a wedding that had a day of mayoun. It only came into play over the last few years. Mayoun is the day where u may or may not invite some guests and when u put UBTAN on the bride. Ubtan is a paste made from gram flour, turmeric powder, milk and god-knows-what, and all the close relatives/friends or guests (if u invited any) put this ubtan on the bride. Its supposed to bring a glow to the bride’s skin! See why I think its pointless? Why dedicate a full day’s ceremony towards this? Besides, your skin is NOT going to glow with just one day’s treatment. It takes a healthy diet, lots of water and daily skin treatments to get that perfect skin. I would eliminate this day of mayoun from my list if I was you, unless your family really wants it.

For the rest of the functions, please read up on “Marriage in Pakistan” in WIKIPEDIA. It explains everything quite well. And there’s many more articles available on the internet explaining these ceremonies so just google them.

In summary, Mehendi is when u put henna on the bride’s hands. Only close friends and relatives are invited. Traditionally, mehendi for the bride and the groom were held separately in their own houses, but now people have started doing it together.

Baraat and Rukhsati happen on the same day. Baraat is the actually wedding day. Thats when the groom and his relatives are going to come to your house with “band baja”, the nikah ceremony will take place, and u will be pronounced husband and wife, and then there will be photoshoots, food, music etc. And then the groom takes u away to his house i.e. rukhsati.

Valima is a reception from the groom’s sides. This time, your relatives are going to come over to the groom’s place.

Sorry, if I confused u even more. Have a look at Wikipedia, it explains it very well.

OMG ur from ireland??? finally someone else…u in dublin?