Alien Aunty Mentality

Lifestyle Relationships
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So a slight dilemma trying to understand certain mentality on context of a specific aunty, may not be so succinct as no idea what goes through peoples mind.

Went to visit an aunty, a strange character who was quite rude and just spent time trying to say things that were impressive on her behalf. Talking over us and not pursuing conversation where shouldn’t be able to make her mark, picking on my son, my face being too thin, which has always been the case nothing new.

Problem is this seems to be a common behaviour amongst the aunties in our family social circle, though towards me I have noticed certain hostility. So I was the not so good looking one, geeky and there daughter had eligible rishtas while I didn’t and had my head stick in books.

These aunties married their good looking daughters to very well off families, though ran into issue mostly due to guys not being so educated and just living off family money.

I got married, obviously into a family with no money ended up taking most of the financial responsibility though AH earning not too bad so have a relatively good lifestyle. No I have known these aunty for years who were never hostile but over the past few years i see the hostility and hate, though i see less and less of them due to me leading a hectic lifestyle. Though in former years they were adamant I had no hell in hope of doing anything in life as not a great family background, looks etc.

Now i see them it is lets talk over her, pick on her, it’s completely weird, though I feel I have been the same completely civil or even nicer. Just trying to figure out the menatlity

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Re: Alien Aunty Mentality

Plain and simple: They're jealous!

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Re: Alien Aunty Mentality

Well they shouldn't be as they are still more comfortable and there altitude to people who can be perceievd to better off than them in education, looks they seem to really make it a point to impress them

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Re: Alien Aunty Mentality

You will never know why they're hostile toward you. If you confront them, they'll either deny it or make you feel worse for trying to point out something negative about them. It might be that they're jealous of you, but now that your lifestyle is much better than theirs....DON'T....make the same mistake these aunties did.... such as looking down on others, showing off, becoming arrogant, picking out flaws in them, behaving rudely, etc. Instead thank Allah for your blessings as opposed to becoming proud that NOW you're doing much better than they are, be kind to them. Sometimes we end up mimicking the behavior of people who have hurt us without realizing it. Not saying you're doing that, but it's easy to get caught up in it. You don't count them among your friends so there's no emotional investment and you don't see these folks much anyway, so try not to think about them.