Aint good person and good partner the same?

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Someone who is a good person/human being wouldn’t make a good partner? I just read somewhere that, *Someone can be a good person, but terrible in a relationship. *Do you agree?

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yes. people expect different things in a relationship. you can be a good person and be a horrid partner because you don't understand what you want from each other.

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Yes, sometimes.. As an ex I know of a couple of ppl who are really into charity work but at the expense of their family life..

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Yes...because you may be a great friend but with your partner, your personalities may clash and there can be no compatibility....

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Sure.

You might be a good person but for your partner that goodness may or may not make sense or be valid. Goodness is also subjective nowadays like almost very other thing :disgust:.

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yes!

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Yeah, duh. You can have good character, do good deeds, mind your manners.....and still not be compatible with a person or have chemsitry with them. Of course...being a good/considerate person increases your chances of drawing people toward you.

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lol how is being a good person subjective? No you cannot be a good person and be horrid to your partner. its an oxymoron. being a good person means being good to the people you come in contact with. Does that not include your partner?

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theres no standard answer for what a good person is. What i find to be a good trait you might not. Therefore it is subjective. For example, if someone stands up for themselves - some might see that as a bad trait because of stubbornness while others will view it as a good trait cuz they dont bend to others will.

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standing up for your self at the expense of others is not a good trait, it is selfish.

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but neither is being a doormat a good trait. Im not saying that i think it is a good trait. Im just illustrating that its subjective. There will be people out there who DO think thats a good trait.

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I think a good person is defined as how he/she behaves generally and with everyone. Now a good person can be overly concerned with pleasing everyone and maintaining that balance, and may do that very well but that is a time consuming task. A good partner needs to put his partner before everything else ie his/her partner needs to be one of the top priorities. These are two different things.

A good person may be overly concerned with maintaining family harmony and this might cut into normal intimate time. He might expect his partner to help maintain this and that might not always be feasible for the partner. What comes naturally to the good person might not come very naturally to the partner.

So no, being a good person is not always being a good partner.

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then they are not a good poeple.

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exactly and i agree with you. But there are people that will go after stubborn ones because THEY feel its a good characteristic. In there eyes its a good trait. But it isnt in our eyes. Thats why its subjective. Remember that good and kind are two different things. If you were talking about kind characteristics then there would be no argument.