My wife … yes guys my wife is treating me like **** …. She is always out shopping wasting my money on stupid stuff & I on the other hand work so hard to provide for her…… I sometimes work after office hours too ….. but my wife on the other hand wasting my money like anything … I am being “mistreated” by her …. I am getting “abused” by her …. On this recent occasion of eid she visited my in laws & took soo expensive gifts for them as if we don’t need the money for ourselves & our 2 years old kid …whenever she asks, asks about the money …… I cant put up with all this…. I don’t earn to buy gifts for my in laws …I don’t work my ass off 9 to 5 to get my money wasted. She does not even cook or do anything, she asked me to get her few maids for household chores …. half of my money gose there…
**What am I a money providing machine for her ???
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Guys tell me how should I put a stop to this thing …. She is mistreating & abusing me like hell ….
Sometimes material things are used to fill voids in relationship. Examine what is lacking in marriage (emotional needs, etc) If you are working after office hours, then that leaves little time to spend with wife and child; it's not healthy. Work can also be used as an escape, but it doesn't solve anything and it can increase the distance. Again; examine your marriage with your wife.
If niceness has failed, be stern. Give her a fixed spending amount and if she exceeds it, tough. She will just have to wait until the next allowance. This will push her to spend carefully. If you keep giving her more money each time she runs out, she's not learning self-control. If need be, cancel the debit/credit cards...she cannot spend what she doesn't have access to. Let her spend only from what you give or the limit you set for her.
Try resolving the matter with her privately. However, if there is no improvement and she shows deliberate disregard......then talk to her parents or the more sensible one among them. Show evidence of her weekly/monthly expenditures and how they exceed the limit. Let them see with their own eyes their daughter's carelessness. It's harder to refute tangible evidence and it will discredit her rona dhona unless her parents are that gullible and weak.
give her fixed amount of money. if she requires more to buy gifts for her own family then tell her to simply get a job and spend what ever way she likes.
omg, she should get you busy with some games or like a good hobby that men usually have so you dont pay much attention to her spendings. She is indeed not doing the job right by not providing enough distractions.
I think you're really a female and trolling us. GOod try though.
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Keeping a diary of expenditures or giving a fixed money isn't going to work. She will start stealing from you. Get rid of her asap or you will be wasting money on her & her in laws all life.
How many guys know about cooking roast chicken and lasagne..
Vut a saxist remark, Deebs. I am surprised that a maadran woman such as yourself is implying that only women should wear aprons and oven mitts.
Thank God, I am not so closed-minded. That said....OP, your wife must have bought some chooriyan with your hard-earned money, right? Good. Now go and wear them.
