I’ve been giving this more thought lately and is there a way to keep the guest list down without offending anyone? As of now, we’ve not had any problems and have managed to keep it at around 200 (slightly under), which rather reasonable (in our opinion). Recently though, some of the people we’ve invited have asked about the possibility of inviting additional people. They’ve casually mentioned things such as “we haven’t seen xyz person in ages, you should invite them” and “what about so and so, they’re related to xyz person." I don’t know how to go about telling them no in a diplomatic manner and am uneasy about leaving that to my fiancé as he’s a bit more direct and might tell them no in a not so diplomatic manner. Any thoughts?
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Sounds tough. I didn't have to face that, then again my wedding was in Pakistan.
If those people don't know your fiancé then you can say well my in laws are arranging the guest list lol. Or just say we will see. No idea how else you can go about it. Are people going to rsvp so you know the number of people who will attend?
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^ Yes, are they're going to rsvp. I quite like the "we'll see..." idea and that's what I've been doing so far and was quite fine with that. Yesterday, though, my fiance said something that somewhat concerned me. He said knowing people (the people involved, that is), what if they interpret "we'll see" positively and bring loads of people (as happened with his brother's wedding last year)?
How many guests attended your wedding, bisoux? Is it different in Pakistan (I mean putting together the guest list and what not)?
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Maybe if you can get an official headcount with all the rsvps then you can figure out how much room you do have still? Is saying no, completely out of the question? If you say it as nicely as possible? Or tell them you need to do the headcount and you'll get back to them.
I think at my wedding there were a LOT of kids accompanied. I'm pretty sure people brought other people, but since no one asked us if they can bring xyz with them, we never found out. I just remember there were a lot of people. Sometimes it's hard to control. Then at my reception/valima not a lot of people came.
Agreement on the number of wedding guests
Where is your wedding happening? How can people just bring so many people with them to a wedding?
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I live in the UK. I have no idea how people can bring so many people with them to a wedding, but I've seen it happen a few times. At my fiance's brother's wedding last year, they had loads of extra people show up, some of whom didn't know either the bride or groom or hadn't seen them in years (and by years, I mean 8-10 years).