… sitting your children down (assuming they’re less than 10 yrs old) and telling them “mommy is growing a baby inside her belly” … do u agree with this?
I’m not historic, I was less than 10 yrs old ~10 yrs ago and I remember we were told to mind our own business when we asked why that woman’s tid was so huge
Also, do u agree with telling your kids (as soon as they start school) where its ok for people to touch you and where it isn’t? Again, we were never told any such thing and it just comes to you with time as common sense…
Would you feel comfortable talking to your young children about these topics?
I think its only a matter of time before parents start telling their kids exactly how mommy conceived… definitely disagree with that one!
yes, wouldn't lie to my kids about such basic and harmless issues. my parents told me this stuff when i was 3 and had a sis. kids just want to know everything, they aren't going to be pervs.
I told my 5 yr old nephew that khala has a baby in her belly but it's still small and has to grow before the doctor can get the baby out. He even felt the kicks when he was here a few weeks ago and was totally intrigued that his new baby cousin was going to be a kickboxer :D
He already knew that baby's grow in belly's cuz his mom told him that. Don't think there's anything wrong with telling kids (at a certain age ofcourse).
It is not necessary to tell a kid that where baby comes from but its okay to tell that baby is in mom's belly. And mom will go to hospital to get a baby. My friend just had a baby and she told her 9 year old daughter that baby is in mom's belly.
yeah I too think telling the kids about this in a “kiddish” way is ok… like “mommy has a baby in her tummy”
not like how I found out where the baby comes from O_O … my class mate, two years older than me, told me the baby is the size of a melon and it comes out of a hole the size of a lemon :no:
Depends on the kid. Parents need to intelligently handle some kids. They should not insult their intelligence by making up silly stories to answer their questions. They would come to know about every thing which their parents wont tell them one way or the other so why not tell them in a nice way instead of leaving them to find out on their own from 'not so good' sources.
I dont think its a bad idea to tell them where its okay for people to touch them when they're in school and you cannot be with them 24/7. There are so many cases of pedophilia and children are so masoom. How would they know (nauzubillah) what is happening is actually wrong unless they were told?
I dont think its okay to tell them about the birds and the bees until appropriate...that conversation is for a later time. However, saying baby is in mommy's belly is okay and pretty harmless. Saying how it got there, is not.
at 10, kids are smart. they notice things. so obviously they have to be told that there is a baby on the way. now it's up to you how much kiddish you want to go. depending on how mature the 10 year old is, i'd either go the route of "mommy's pregnant" or "mommy will have a baby soon and it's growing in the tummy". when my brother was born, i barely noticed that my mommy was gonna hve a kid.
as for the wrong touch, every single kid, as soon as they can speak, should be taught about it. no question.
when my brother was born, i barely noticed that my mommy was gonna hve a kid.
when my youngest sister was born, I was 10 or 11 and I did not even notice till my mom went to the hospital and my dad came back and told us that we got a baby sister.
Its not about telling your kids, they wont associate that knowledge to any perversion, but the fact that they wont know any better and keep announcing it in front of others that could get little embarrassing.
Yes, i told them that they’re going to have a little brother/sister to play with soon, and that the baby is in mummy’s tummy. For my third pregnancy, my youngest daughter was obsessed with my tummy. She used to talk and sing to the baby
Of course, and i already have, given that both my girls attend school.
I disagree. We’ll be explaining the birds and the bees, growing up, puberty etc, to them when they are “coming of age”… just like my parents did to us.
Sure. It has to be done. I’d rather them get their source of information from us, their parents…rathe than nonsensical hearsay from their friends.
haha! I was told a similar one by a friend when I was at school, the baby is the size of a watermelon and you’d have to squeeze it out of a hole the size of a 50p You can imagine my horror when I heard this, then she tried to make me feel less squeamish by explaining the mechanics behind dilation!
Hmmm the first time I saw a pregnant lady I thought that she is severely sick and I really felt sorry for her.
As a kid my mom always warned that no male should touch you. I remember there was this Sindhi language teacher who was very much into touching girl students as like patting them of shoulders etc. I told this to my mom and she told me to very very careful. Now when I think of it now I think the way he used to touch girls was very very purposeful because he hailed from village of Sindh and it was not something habitual I am sure. Anyway I plan to tell my daughter where it is ok for people to touch her and where it isn’t. Because over here I have heard many stories where young girls were abused by their van drivers.
100% would be telling my kids that it is NOT ok for ANYONE to be touching them ANYWHERE
As soon as my niece started nursery (3yrs old) we told her this.... the world we live in today is, unfortunately, filled with very sick minded people.. as a parent / carer, it is our responsibility to do anything in our power to protect our children.
To be perfectly blunt, I think our culture goes to the extreme to hide certain things that are perfectly natural and beautiful because I feel like in general our culture tends to have very 'ghatiya soch'
I would tell my son if I am expecting, it is nto only to tell them mommy has a baby in the tummy, it is also to prepare them mentally because some kids don't accept the change veery well. So if you can expalinn in a way that it is age appropriate and child can understand with out making it either a' big secret' or 'khuli kitab' I think is perfectly sensible thing to do.
Both me and my hubby rather tell my child about the changes/facts ourselves and answer his question rather leaving it to wieredos out there.
Also, do u agree with telling your kids (as soon as they start school) where its ok for people to touch you and where it isn't? Again, we were never told any such thing and it just comes to you with time as common sense...
Definately! I won't be with my kids 24/7.....God forbid if someone touched them inappropriately while they're at school or at a friend/relatives house, I would want them to come to me and tell me. Most kids are sexually abused by someone they know and trust! And I also would want them to know that it was not their fault and they did nothing wrong. Perhaps the # of sexual abuse victims would decrease if desis weren't so uncomfortable talking about it.....I know I've heard plenty of stories from desi girls who were touched inappropriately while they were kids.....they never told anyone about it b/c they thought they would get in trouble for it.
As for the pregnancy, yes, I would also talk to my kids about it but in terms that are appropriate for their age. My parents never talked to me about these things....but the "world" for me was also different (growing up back home in the 80's before internet/100's of TV channels/cell phones etc). Society is different now and I want my kids to hear these things from me instead of getting false information from their peers.
definitely disagree with that one!
