I think i should become one. I am always bombarded with problems others (some friends, some just randomn people) are facing and somehow i feel obliged to help them out :(. But i feel when i have my issues/worries i feel very isolated, maybe i myself dont feel very comfortable sharing them but even when i do (rare times) i don’t get a very genuine or positive feedback.
Is it wrong to expect people to feel the same for you, the way you feel for them? OR should i just make myself understand that everyone is different and has a diff way of dealing with things?.
I see myself get so worried for people even friends who i may have not known for more than few months. Just like few weeks ago, i literally had my bp shot up when a friend of mine (who worked out with me at gym for 2-3 mnths n then moved 2 a diff location) was upset about her rishta process going nowhere. I was so disturbed for few days and made sure she was doing ok. I am always encouraging her, praying for her. And it doesnt stop here, say if someone i usually talk to at gym tells me that she is not well or even someone in her family is sick, i am always asking on them.
Maybe i am just too sensitive And i think i shud change that about myself because that often leaves you hurt cuz u expect the same from others.
Based on what you say about yourself, you are a sweetheart <3
Its just that you sometimes come across too smug and know-it-all, and you turn quite nasty if someone disagrees with you. But then, we all have our flaws right.
I think i should become one. I am always bombarded with problems others (some friends, some just randomn people) are facing and somehow i feel obliged to help them out :(. But i feel when i have my issues/worries i feel very isolated, maybe i myself dont feel very comfortable sharing them but even when i do (rare times) i don't get a very genuine or positive feedback.
Is it wrong to expect people to feel the same for you, the way you feel for them? OR should i just make myself understand that everyone is different and has a diff way of dealing with things?.
I see myself get so worried for people even friends who i may have not known for more than few months. Just like few weeks ago, i literally had my bp shot up when a friend of mine (who worked out with me at gym for 2-3 mnths n then moved 2 a diff location) was upset about her rishta process going nowhere. I was so disturbed for few days and made sure she was doing ok. I am always encouraging her, praying for her. And it doesnt stop here, say if someone i usually talk to at gym tells me that she is not well or even someone in her family is sick, i am always asking on them.
Maybe i am just too sensitive :( And i think i shud change that about myself because that often leaves you hurt cuz u expect the same from others.
Rant over.
I feel like you very often. I stretch myself to help others or just to make them happy. A few months back I was on a sick leave and someone I know was getting married. I went out of my way to arrange chor mehndi etc for her just because she was sad that her dad wasn’t there (he has passed away). I have done a lot for many people and very often I am quiet alone when I need someone to be there for me.
I have realized that I am too sensitive and some people just know how to make you do stuff for them. So be careful but don’t give up your good values.
Aww really? I am sorry if i come across like this but honestly i am always open to diff opinions and views and infact i think i learn alot by hearing diff opinions and even if i may not agree with them but i always carry something positive from them. I will def keep a check on this and try my best not to come across as obnoxious :D.
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I know eh. But its inate, i don’t know if i can help it much :no:. I should try though cuz i dnt wanna end up with b.p issues :(.
^ i think your 'inate' quality will be gone once you get hit real hard by someone for whom you did a lot......and after that my friend...you will be a complete person and you will develop the ability to 'not get sick' over issues....
oh..wait...that was a little overboard...but its true :@:
^ i think your 'inate' quality will be gone once you get hit real hard by someone for whom you did a lot......and after that my friend...you will be a complete person and you will develop the ability to 'not get sick' over issues....
oh..wait...that was a little overboard...but its true :@:
But it has already happened but didnt made me stop? or are you saying i wl eventually give up :D
But if you give up… it means you’ve lost hope that one day you will find such a friend who is as ready to help you and make you happy as you are for them… we all want friends we can put our lives on the line for… because they would do the same for us.
hehe or maybe i take things too seriously… :rotato:
But if you give up... it means you've lost hope that one day you will find such a friend who is as ready to help you and make you happy as you are for them... we all want friends we can put our lives on the line for... because they would do the same for us.
Hmmm no i dont think i go to the extent of putting my live on the line for any friend at all, i dont have such deep friends. Nor do i think anyone except yr family can have such love n care for you. However i just hope people stop using others for their good and forget abt them when they may be in the need of some comfort or friendly advice.
Hmmm no i dont think i go to the extent of putting my live on the line for any friend at all, i dont have such deep friends. Nor do i think anyone except yr family can have such love n care for you. However i just hope people stop using others for their good and forget abt them when they may be in the need of some comfort or friendly advice.
On a serious note......its a good quality that you have---- 'Empathy'....you should be proud of it and work towards keeping it and refining it (as in not to overdo it) ..
And i think i shud change that about myself because that often leaves you hurt cuz u expect the same from others.
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