For some reason, this thought keeps creeping in my mind a lot lately and it really scares me to death. I mean, face it… our parents, just like us, are not getting any younger. I still have a hard time dealing with my dad’s change in behavior as he’s gotten older… he’s no longer the rough and tough do it all kinda guy… he gets tired, he’s not as energetic anymore… a lot has changed… I dunno, he’s kinda starting to mellow out and not be so in tune anymore. I mean, thank God its nothing serious, but its the ocassional yet increasing forgetfulness… you know, not being able to remember things, getting impatient…etc. etc..
I’m just so uncomfortable with the whole concept of one day not having my parents with me in this world… and it upsets me to see my dad (even my mom sometimes) getting to that stage where they no longer can do everything on their own and actually need help from us…
I know I probably shouldnt even be thinking about this kinda stuff, but I do… unfortunately in times when everyone is happy and together and then suddenly it hits me that it wont always be this way…its something that keeps nagging at my head… I wanna know how others who have gone through this or are going through this have dealt with it and coped… it sure aint easy
Yes, the same thought occurs to me a lot too. I suggest that we need to do the best we can for whatever time we have to be with our parents. Time is not set about who is going to leave first, parents or us. But them aging and having deteriorated health shows some signs.
Lets all enjoy the time in hand to take care of them and making them happy.
sabriya and jadugar thank god ur parent hve nt gt ne diseases or problems . and may allah give them a good health and long life.
from childhood to adulthood we hve seen my dad ill , he has diabetes type 2 and its very severe .. first he had to have a toe amputated then he was in hospital and before that he could not feel anything in his legs anymore due to diabetes. then he had kidney failure had to go on dialysis and now has gt a transplant n mashallah he is fine bt always hs to be carefull abt his diabetes.
all these years i hve been so so scared of loosing him . at one point we cme so close . and everytime i do think abt losing them i feel like world is shattered.
mizzrani, thanks for your prayers.
May Allah give great health and long lives to your parents. They are so very young and I am sure there is so much yet to do in their lives.
i feel the same too
its a scary feeling - my dads had heart bypass & diabetes type 2 and since the op iv noticed he's changed in mental state/forgetfulness and not so active with us anymore. Also my mom gets more depressed and sensitive over little issues at home. i wish i cud reduce their worries just like that but all i can do is try to keep them happy and pray to Allah for their good health.
its a scary feeling...:(
somehow we just want them to be as they were when we were kids....active and healthy...
but things change....
i get to see my parents after almost every 2 years ...and the changes in them hit me really hard....
there is nothing i can do to stop these changes...all i can do is pray for their happy and long life and may Allah (swt) bless all parents with health...ameen...
I know the feeling. Some time I wake up in the night and get worried about my dad. We live in different countires so I dont see them that often. i worry a lot about what will happen....
but at the end of the day life, helath and death is all in Allah's power. i just pray that everybody's parents will be safe from illness and Allah gives them long life to see their children and grandchildren's happiness:) amen
sometimes i forget about these things..that one day my parents would be gone. it makes me sad. :( so i guess the best thing to do is to obey them and make them happy by doing little things for them like ironing their clothes or making tea for them.
lately my dad has been really stressed out about a lot of things and he has gotten so much weaker :( i always pray for them to have a healthy long life
great topic, Sabriya786.
one's parents are the best friends one has. and we should always help them see that we are respectful of them, especially when they ruly understand us and treat us fairly and empower us,stand by our decisions and when they advise us, they dont mean to push us, but guide us and are our well wishers.
parents who strictly hold on to their children, grow to become dependent on the young adult children. that should not ideally be the case.
taking care of aging parents is a great task. andmay Allah swt make us all able to do that effectively. amen.
best,
Dushwari
My dad got glasses last week for the first time ever and ever since it’s really hit me that he’s actually getting older now - I dunno why it was the glasses that triggered it all since I’ve been as blind as a bat since my teens
