How do you deal with that ?
I have a stubborn habit of staring back to make a point that i am not the slightest bit intimidated or fearful which sometimes turn into an all out staring contest.
That reminds me of a friend I met at a gym. Almost every childhood friend of his had become a sore looser. Even if he looked toward them, they would take that as an insult and try to pick a fight. So he stopped looking in their direction altogether. I think that is a good strategy. We have to pick our battles, not wise to waste time and energy on such losers.
Later on, I encountered similar losers on public transport who just got out of jail and would return back to jail within weeks. They too would pick fights over tiniest of matters. But I would just say sorry and move on.
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That gave me a chuckle lol. More because its somewhat me as well. I give a stare like Shoaib Akhter etc used to stare at batsmen after a nasty bouncer. But most of the times I dont mean it in any sorta bad way. Possibly its the moment when i dive mentally in a deeper thought. Something hard to control I guess.
Welcome back PP btw!
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That’s a very sensible and logical way to handle such situations. I understand paying attention to such fools is waste of time n energy, but let’s suppose you meet someone you had gotten into a scuffle with in the past and he stares you dead in the eyes, will you adopt the same approach ?
In my 30's, I rarely have any interactions with people that would result in them trying to stare me down. But back in the day, a wrong stare is all it would for me to get into a physical altercation with them. I've always been hot headed, but over time I've learned to calm myself down by ignoring people and their behavior.
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How do you deal with that ?
I have a stubborn habit of staring back to make a point that i am not the slightest bit intimidated or fearful which sometimes turn into an all out staring contest.
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I just ignore. Though it’s difficult to ignore. Usually it makes me chuckle.
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[quote=““Pakistani Prince””]
That’s a very sensible and logical way to handle such situations. I understand paying attention to such fools is waste of time n energy, but let’s suppose you meet someone you had gotten into a scuffle with in the past and he stares you dead in the eyes, will you adopt the same approach ?
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I’m not good at playing games that are often played in such situations, such as arguing, swearing, starring, spitting, etc. So I try to stay completely out of it, with some regret. When I don’t stay out, I skip the games and jump into a physical fight right away, which I’ve never regretted. Last time I got into a physical fight, it was with PIA employees at their headquarters in Karachi. I was alone and they were around 25. I got beaten but not for a moment I felt any regret. The fight started because one employee taunted me instead of simply declining my request for a phone charger.
Another time I was with mine and my friend’s family having dinner at a restaurant. A guy sitting afar started cursing my friend. We asked the restaurant owner to intervene but that guy didn’t listen, then we threatened to call the police, the guy still wouldn’t stop. Then that guy came over and sat right next to our table. I let my friend shout at him and talk to the manager, because I knew that if I got involved we’ll all be going to jail. Later on my friend told me about that guy and why he was pissed. It was related to a house purchase.
So I avoid as much as possible until it’s not.
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So do people even understand that your stares are intended to scorch their souls or do they mistake your stares for being in love with them?
GS has lately been suffering from Hyperandrogenism? people bragging about how tough and angry there were back in the day, loved getting into fights, aggressive stares, physical altercations and what not and what not, and I'm not just talking about this thread.
Anyways I do not mind keeping my stare down if necessary and avoid confrontation/ putting others into uncomfortable situations. May be I am a very weak person but its Ok.
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ikr.
If gazer will be around less than 5 minutes, I ignore their existence.
If gazer is expected to be in proximity for a while/unknown length of time:
I acknowledge that I know they are staring at me: -if perverted, I give a stern, blank look for about 3-4 seconds.
-If not perverted, I give benefit of the doubt and assume they're lost in some thought while their eyes rest in my direction. So I give them a more gentle look.I look away for about 15 seconds
I check to see if staring has ceased. If not, I subtly roll my eyes and nonverbally question why I'm being stared at.
If the gazer is still deeth at this point, then via body language I reject being a staring object. I get out of their visual reach or turn around and don't look in their direction again.
It's more or less a 2 minute process.
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Well everybody have their own stance and altitude towards the social life