Aggressive Children

I worked with more than my fair share, usually after a few weeks, they realise I am not some big bad wolf and warm to me. I’v even had a few who have apologised for being rude and aggressive towards me. I know strategies, I do the whole Postive rewards/ punishment thing (Skinner’s theory). It has always worked, no matter how old the child is and what type of home/school situation they have.

But lo and behold, I seem to have met my match. This child is disruptive, rude, arrogant, spoilt, has difficultly with authority and very poor listening and concentration skills. He is academically fine, he needs one to one support with his behaviour and concentration.

I tried a few “get to know me sessions”, we played a few games and I spoke about myself and he did the same. We spoke about rules and respecting others, he seems fine in a one on one situation. As soon as there are other children, he begins shouting at me, using profanities, becomes aggressive and to put it simply, does not like me being around him. I think it’s a pride thing. So when I move away and help other children, he joins the table and tells the other children to not talk to me. So its like he wants my attention, but he doesnt at the same time.

Today he wrote something offence about me for all the other little darlings to read, laughed about it, and then went on to tell all the other children to ignore me and tell me to shut up if i spoke to them. So soon enough everysingle child in the class begin being “diffcult” - ( I am being nice with that word).

I don’t know what to do, he’s turned the whole class against me and takes pleasure at the other children being rude towards me.

The deputy head had a word with them, so now it’s like, he got what he wanted. He thinks I’m afaid of him as I told the head teacher, but I had to, they need to know of any kind of incidents.

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He wants you exclusively and is afraid of losing you hence the bad mouthing. OR, he views you as his potential second wife. Is he going thru puberty?

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make him a class monitor....give him responsibility to watch over other children.

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I wonder if he has a crush on you. :p

Btw... what grade do you teach?

Also, good that you told someone in authority about it. The kid needs to be talked and suspended, if need be.

Stop being so nice. Perhaps it's not worth being nice with this particular bunch.

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he has issues, what are his parents like? family life

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Making him a class monitor would have a negitive effect on the rest of the class, they see his reactions to situations and pick up on the consquences. It is not fair to the other children to single him out. Anway, our school does not do class monitor's. He's eight years old. I don't know much about home life. I did suggest using a behaviour program with him, but the head teacher refused as he is not statemented to have that kind of support. But I have a feeling the way he is going, his needs will be reviewed

I think Sadiyah has nailed it, I am too nice, I have worked around him, did everything he wanted and he now thinks he can get away with it, he thinks I'm afraid of him. I need to be the nastiness he thinks I am. Start dishing out sanctions and see where I go from there.

I hate it when they do this to me on a Friday, ruins the weekend! :(

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Missy M I need to talk to yuou

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Suspend him for a week!

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Time for the dunce cap and the naughty corner technique.

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he might be suffering from a disorder, e.g. Asperger’s syndrome or Oppositional Defiant Disorder or Conduct Disorder:

Check this: http://www.klis.com/chandler/pamphlet/oddcd/oddcdpamphlet.htm

You could get him referred to a child psychologist.