alrite so i have a 4 year old and a 2 year old both boys 
time for a 3rd? 
i had so many auntys tell me to go for a 3rd on eid that iam actually thinking about it.. but at the same time iam not sure i might just go crazy if i’ll have another boy 
maybe i should wait 
c-sections are no fun oh and the weight gain.. 
so yea how many kids do u have ? how many years apart? when are you considering your nexT?
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i have the one little bubba and honestly, we're seriously considering trying for #2 when he turns 1. i just really want to get the whole being pregnant bit over with, you know? plus i like that they'd be close in age and hopefully after 5 or so chaotic "baby" years, we could all get on with the business of living. am i being naive? :p
having said that, we are masha'Allah really loving being a family of 3 so i don't know if i'd want to interrupt that dynamic. did you find a big change going from 3 to 4?
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no your not being naive at all actually i was thinking the same... and yea i think about 2 years is a good age gap..
I cant wait to get out of the 'stroller' phase though..thats why i was thnking about trying once my little one is 2.. (he will be 2 in december) but iam still not sure if i will be able to handle 3 kids..since my boys are very shararti
i didnt feel like it was a big change going from 3-4 , both of them are boys nothing much changed around me to feel so..
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^ maybe it'll be a girl this time!
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i think 3-4 year gap is ideal...:) i wudn't know until i've my own ;) hehe
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My son will be 2.5 when i have my next in a few weeks. Ideal yes...though i would have liked a 14. -18 month diff...I dont know if it was just my son....but being pregnant with a 2 yr old was brutal! I wouldnt do it again. Tme it so u have the 2nd baby when the first one is 18 month max....or once they have turmed 3 and have settled down into being human.... Cuz terrible 2s are REAL and the kid needs ure patience! Id say wait till ure 2nd turns 2.5 atleast.... And then go for it....since his testing of boundries will have simmered down a bit. Bot otherwise.... Ure the best judge..... If u think u can do it...go for it ... :)
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some ppl are telling me to go for a fourth one as I have 3 daughters, as next might be a boy 
these people are CRAZY!! how the hell do they think shall I handle all the kids at once!! I should develop a system that filters such talks and when they talk all I hear is beeep beep and thats all.
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3 boys, age gap: two years apart.
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my sis has 3 girls and 1 boy and people are telling her to try for a 5th one coz you have to have 2 boys.
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Next time tjey say that, ask them for a written guarantee that it will be a boy.
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hopefully.. so i dont get talked into a fourth
haha yea i always get comments like ’ ab eik larki bana lo’ 
like seriously they talk as if iits in my hands to choose between genders 
time for a 4th ? 
i heard about homeopathy meds .. that assures you will have a girl (but i wouldnt take them)
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lol you guys, one lady mom of 4 was looking at the back of the head of my third one and was saying next will be a boy!
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hehe sounds good, lets pray she’s right
but i wouldnt trust anyone until the baby is born and i see for my self that its a girl a frend of mine was expecting and thrughout her entire pregnancy (3 ultra sounds) she was told it was a girl.. and when the baby was born it was a boy (she already had a boy and was really hoping for a girl) and all the girli shopping she did is still sitting in her closet
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lets not pray anything as no plan ... I am totally booked for the rest of my life iA to ge a good mom to the girls iA!
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oh sorry i thought u were trying for a boy
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Oh ladies please don't listen to others...have a baby when you and your partner really want to! They sometimes really view women as baby popping machine, don't they? Why can't mothers be happy be what genders they have and how many they have? My sister and cousins hear such comment every once in while and they proper piss them off.
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I have a son (51/2 months) and we're planning on trying when he's 1. Like SGC I would like to have my kids close together and get over the baby stage all at once. Sure it'll make for a crazy few years but I think in the long run it'll be better for us.
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i have 3 boys.... oldest is 8, and my twins are 6...it was hard in the beginning, considering my twins were born before my oldest even turned 2, and i had 3 kids in diapers at the same time, etc, however, we got done with all those things at once! No more strollers, no more potty training (thank god!), vacations are a breeze, because all three are the same age group with similiar interests....the best part is, they are built in playmates!!
i cannot imagine having to go all through the "baby stuff" again now. i totally think it's best to have a smaller gap between siblings, get them raised together, and then enjoy life!!
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^ Interesting point. My sister's friend just had her second baby after six years and she's totally enjoying the whole baby stuff, for her its like being a new mum once again, things about the new born and the parenting that goes with it still surprises her everyday.
I don't know what future holds for me but i like to think that I probably won't have another baby when I already have a baby to look after and play with. I'd go for another one when my first one is totally and completely out of the toddler stage.