What should be the "ideal" or accepted age difference between spouses. I've been reading online there is a calculation where you divide your age by 2 and add 7 but am not sure that is really an appropriate age difference. I've always felt 5-7 yr difference is ideal.
What about a woman who is exactly your age or close to it, whom you share chemistry with and who is on the same wavelength as you?
Why do you feel that a woman who is 5-7 years younger would be the perfect match and have you any personal experience to back up that view?
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Define “close”. To me it can mean 2-3 years apart. Sharing chemistry and on the same wavelength is fine and dandy but does age really correlate to that? I mean I can be on the same wavelength with a 40 y/o or a 20 y/o. Age is just a number, no? I feel 5-7 yrs is appropriate only because that is what I have seen with most of the people, and I use the word most loosely, in my social circle, family and co workers. I know plenty of people who are the same age or near and also 5-7 years apart and even 10 years apart. My personal view is that in my past experiences I was able to relate to most women who were 3-4 years apart but that was a while ago. To me 5-7 is ideal because its still an average sum, its not too old. Finding someone the same age as you is ideal but then most women at that age, without giving away my age, are most likely married.
I like 2-3 years difference
Man here die sooner than women so if you marry an older guy than you will be alone for a very long time. Some women are marrying younger guys.
I think its a lot cultural but thankfully things have changed since the last generation per se. Now people dont care much about age. Or depends who you are talking to.
Like I would absolutely dont care about that as long as we two click mentally, have chemistry and make sure we are able to go along long way, thats it.
2-3 years + or - for me. I don’t do huge gaps because I want someone on the same page as me.
women that are 10-20 years older than me, we call em milufs these days 
Same as the women above said. 2-3 yrs (+/-) is ideal for me. I do not like guys the same exact age as me.
I think worrying about ?ideal? age difference is meaningless because there are so many other considerations when choosing a spouse. Some guys want a way-younger woman. And some women want a lifestyle that available guys of their age simply cannot provide. And both have a right to their preferences as long as both are mature and healthy. We have all seen when a young woman will decline a proposal from a guy who is around her age and instead go for someone who can provide that lifestyle, even if the accepted guy is 20 years older than her. Such couples do exist around us and both spouses seem content with their choice.
I had never thought about it until few years ago when I met this couple and mistook them as father/daughter but immediately realized they were in fact husband/wife. On further interactions with that family, I learned that they were actually happier than many other couples who have great chemistry and all but struggle in other aspects of their life. As a bonus, the guy’s fitness was better than that of an average guy of his wife’s age.