So, the 33 year old guy I previously posted about turned out to be amazing and we both got along really well. We got baat pakki-ed, and he is probably the most caring and loving person I ever met, Mashallah
Everything is going smooth and we’re happy, but I feel he somehow has an age complex. He tries to dress up like younger guys (fancy juvenile shirts and boyish hairstyles ) and generally acts like he’s a fun guy. I know he’s lively and all, but I do feel he is doing some of it only to make sure that I don’t feel he’s old (I’m 24).
I chose him for his maturity and stability, and I certainly won’t like him trying to appear/act young only to impress me. In short, I’m more than okay with his age and don’t think it’s a negative. How do I tell him this?
Good thread. How do you tell someone to act their age?
But first tell us if you are sure that it's all an act and he is not genuinely a fun loving, youngishly dressing guy. Maybe he is really young in heart and not trying to act young.
I am 30. Men my age wear fashionable clothes, gel their hair, and wear the latest sunglasses. Why is this something that is limited to the 24 yr old crowd?
Good thread. How do you tell someone to act their age?
But first tell us if you are sure that it's all an act and he is not genuinely a fun loving, youngishly dressing guy. Maybe he is really young in heart and not trying to act young.
He has said it once or twice - I don't want people saying I'm too old for you.
I can't say if it is all an act but I do know he does a few things only to make sure I don't think he's old. He doesn't want me thinking I would have been better off with a younger guy. He does it only out of good intention, but still..I don't think it's necessary.
n7111, he must love you very much indeed if he's trying to chnage himself for you. Let him know through casual conversation that you like his maturity, and that the age difference does not bother you at all.
In these initial stages of courtship everyone tries to put their best foot forward. Once you've spent more time with each other, he'll realize that you love him as he is, and that he doesn't need to pretend to be younger. All couples go through this settling down phase and spouses eventually get comfortable just being themselves with each other, and dropping all pretenses. Just give him time.
Say to him **“**App jese hain Mujhe Wese hi passand hain” wo samjh jayein gey
batun batun me u can say so many things like we talk to each other about life partner ke mujhe aisaa passand hai us mae ye quality huni chahiye and all that..
) and generally acts like he’s a fun guy. I know he’s lively and all, but I do feel he is doing some of it only to make sure that I don’t feel he’s old (I’m 24).
