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nahi yar, u didnt really go off topic rest of them did like they usually do and nobody to stop there. phew.
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I Wish You All The Best, Dear :-)
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been there done that .. :) don't worry. IA you'd be happily married soon. If still your heart isnt into this. Do istekhara. If things still aren't right then talk to your parents to call it off. It's your life..your parents might be upset for a while but think the hurt if something bad God forbid happens after shaadi !
thanks dear.
calling off this rishta isnot easy at all neither thinking that my parents will be upset with me and then they will be aright.....and i cant just end it unless they are (my spouse and family) bad people....they are very good people...aur unka bhi is tarah se dil dukhana achi baat nahi hai...agar maine aisa kiya tou mujhe pata hai is jahan main ya us jahan main mujhe saza zaroor mile gi....nothing bad will happen as long as i keep it to my heart. filhaal is waqt sirf mera dil nakhush hai baqi sab bohat khush hain...its much better than me the only one being happy and everyone else upset.
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thanks dear.
calling off this rishta isnot easy at all neither thinking that my parents will be upset with me and then they will be aright.....and i cant just end it unless they are (my spouse and family) bad people....they are very good people...aur unka bhi is tarah se dil dukhana achi baat nahi hai...agar maine aisa kiya tou mujhe pata hai is jahan main ya us jahan main mujhe saza zaroor mile gi....nothing bad will happen as long as i keep it to my heart. filhaal is waqt sirf mera dil nakhush hai baqi sab bohat khush hain...its much better than me the only one being happy and everyone else upset.
Ofcourse its not easy, perhaps could be the hardest thing u wl ever do in your life. BUT then life is never easy but sometimes you have to take some steps to save your self from future mess.
You say everyone is happy rite now and you dnt wanna risk it, but god forbid what if things dnt work out after marriage, wudnt that cause them more stress?
See nobody at all can tell you what to do and what not to do because we dont know how bad the situation is or what yr reasons r for feeling this way. You did mention yr inlaws are good people but nt every good person is meant for you? they can be good people bt maybe u dnt feel like u can live with them or adjust with them. So weigh everything and make yr decision. If its just a fear of commitement then i wudnt worry too much of it but if it is triggered by yr inlaws or fiance's behavior then you need to do something about it asap.
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Ofcourse its not easy, perhaps could be the hardest thing u wl ever do in your life. BUT then life is never easy but sometimes you have to take some steps to save your self from future mess.
You say everyone is happy rite now and you dnt wanna risk it, but god forbid what if things dnt work out after marriage, wudnt that cause them more stress?
See nobody at all can tell you what to do and what not to do because we dont know how bad the situation is or what yr reasons r for feeling this way. You did mention yr inlaws are good people but nt every good person is meant for you? they can be good people bt maybe u dnt feel like u can live with them or adjust with them. So weigh everything and make yr decision. If its just a fear of commitement then i wudnt worry too much of it but if it is triggered by yr inlaws or fiance's behavior then you need to do something about it asap.
oh uski tussi fikar hi na karo....agar meri fiancee ya uski family ka behaviour ulta shulta hua mere saath tou maine chup nahi baithna...ofcourse i will tell my parents. i wont tolerate that.
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oh uski tussi fikar hi na karo....agar meri fiancee ya uski family ka behaviour ulta shulta hua mere saath tou maine chup nahi baithna...ofcourse i will tell my parents. i wont tolerate that.
chalo that's good :D. now apne dil ko samjho fazool baton pe pareshan nahi hote aur na dosron ko karte hain :P
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chalo that's good :D. now apne dil ko samjho fazool baton pe pareshan nahi hote aur na dosron ko karte hain :P
lol doosra koi pareshan nahi hai. :)
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lol doosra koi pareshan nahi hai. :)
well thnx for not noticing but i was concerned :@. lol anyways.........
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hahaha reply karne ke baad mujhe laga ke tum apni baat kar rahi ho…oh well sorry and thanks for your concerns 
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I guess its completely normal to get cold feet. I know my fiance for almost 7yrs now and ofcourse its going to be love marriage in July InshaAllah. But at time i just worry..worry..worry abt my parents, We are three daughters and I am the youngest one. I worry that is it worth it? Leaving my parents alone with some guy to tc of his family n him. I mean isnt it my farz to tc of my parents first n den move on with my life. Too confusing, I know. Regarding my fiance, I dont have much doubts.. I know we have amazing understanding n he will support me regardless.but at times i get crazy thinkin, really am I going to make it? Am I going to be a good wife, mother whatever. I guess we all keep thinkin stuff in our heads, till the time we re in tht situation.