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when my chachu got married my chaachee said to my mom
"Actually Baji baat yeh hai ke hamaare ghar mein doh saal thak dulhan kaam nahin karti"
so my mom said
"Main aapke maayka ke riwaj torna nahin chaati par agar aap mind nahi karti... hamari nand pregnant or mere husband cancer ke mareez hain... to jab aap ka dil chaae plz kuch kardi jiye"
and my chaache started cookin hahah
Shay, u made a very wise decision, now u have the best of both worlds! Hope u both continue to be very happy together, inshallah.
when my chachu got married my chaachee said to my mom "Actually Baji baat yeh hai ke hamaare ghar mein doh saal thak dulhan kaam nahin karti" so my mom said "Main aapke maayka ke riwaj torna nahin chaati par agar aap mind nahi karti... hamari nand pregnant or mere husband cancer ke mareez hain... to jab aap ka dil chaae plz kuch kardi jiye" and my chaache started cookin hahah
See, i think thats not so good if a person who lives in a household doesn't contribute to the workload and pull their own weight after having a reasonable amount of time to b a dulhan and settle in.
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I have been married about 10 months now...and it keeps on getting better mashaAlalh....I had been engaged for about 4 years and never once I thought it would be so good afterwards...It was long distance thing....I was in Canada and he was in the UK...and we never saw each other in all those years...I met my husband 10 days before we were set to be nikkafied....all of this still sounds crazy to me...haha
I am really happy to be married to him...I got married in Karachi and lived with my inlaws for 10 days...it's all guys there...no nandain...so being the first girl in the family...I got alot of attention from everyone which was fun...
Moving back to UK was when the real deal started...I thought I would be terrible at everything having seen my mom being so perfect at cooking, housekeeping, etc....but to my utter surprise, I m not bad at all...I love having the freedom of doing everything just like how I want it...I have fun cooking....he is a good cook himself...so he helps me out if someone's coming over...I would make the biryani...and he would make Achar chicken or something lol...it's fun...
But if there is anything I dont like...It's washing dishes!...I hate it with passion...we moved last month to a new place...so I just made sure that we have a dishwasher here...:P
All in all...Life is good mashaAllah...
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^ so sweet mashallah :)
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@shay, Ramada Plaza Karachi.
I agree, chores should be equally done by both husband and wife, if not more than the husband :)
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It took some time for me and my husband to settle down after marriage. We both come from huge extended families that live in the same city and state so the davaats and parties were nonstop! They all have houses near each other and I had a ton of fun after the wedding..wearing new clothes, new jewelry, taking pictures, eating like a pig, talking laughing and just enjoying being a new dulhan!
We finally moved out to start med school this September and alhamdullilah things are better now. We visit our parents/in laws on weekends if time allows us to but the amount of schoolwork and studying has increased so we don't visit family that often.
Its a new and different life after marriage but my husband is a diamond so I am happy and things couldn't be better :-)
I have been married about 10 months now...and it keeps on getting better mashaAlalh....I had been engaged for about 4 years and never once I thought it would be so good afterwards...It was long distance thing....I was in Canada and he was in the UK...and we never saw each other in all those years...I met my husband 10 days before we were set to be nikkafied....all of this still sounds crazy to me...haha
I am really happy to be married to him...I got married in Karachi and lived with my inlaws for 10 days...it's all guys there...no nandain...so being the first girl in the family...I got alot of attention from everyone which was fun...
Moving back to UK was when the real deal started...I thought I would be terrible at everything having seen my mom being so perfect at cooking, housekeeping, etc....but to my utter surprise, I m not bad at all...I love having the freedom of doing everything just like how I want it...I have fun cooking....he is a good cook himself...so he helps me out if someone's coming over...I would make the biryani...and he would make Achar chicken or something lol...it's fun...
But if there is anything I dont like...It's washing dishes!...I hate it with passion...we moved last month to a new place...so I just made sure that we have a dishwasher here...:P
All in all...Life is good mashaAllah...
And you're perfect at your rasmalai :P
Thanks hun 
It's only been Nikkah for me so far but everytime I visit hubby and inlaws, I am treated like a princess. The 3-4 weeks I spend with them is like having the best vacation.. especially with my husband who does everything for me to make sure I have the best trip... the fact that he lives in sunny Miami is a bonus. He takes me to my favorite restaurants, beaches, malls, everywhere. 'You're leaving in just a few days...' is always a good reason to keep the wife happy :D This is why I like long distance relationships- when I finally get to see the hubby, he tries to make it as special as he can. Same with the inlaws, they usually plan everything ahead in excitement such as where to take me, eating out, etc etc.. MIL cooks my favorite stuff on the weekends, and no matter whether it's a school night or not for my devars, we all stay up watching movies, playing games, etc. Let's see how it is after rukhsati :D
aww Mashallah u r very lucky to have a husband like tht and such a loving inlaws, may u always be happy like this.. when r u getting married? do share your after marriage experience with us :D