when my chachu got married my chaachee said to my mom "Actually Baji baat yeh hai ke hamaare ghar mein doh saal thak dulhan kaam nahin karti" so my mom said "Main aapke maayka ke riwaj torna nahin chaati par agar aap mind nahi karti... hamari nand pregnant or mere husband cancer ke mareez hain... to jab aap ka dil chaae plz kuch kardi jiye" and my chaache started cookin hahah
See, i think thats not so good if a person who lives in a household doesn't contribute to the workload and pull their own weight after having a reasonable amount of time to b a dulhan and settle in.