Re: After ramadan
By all means become religious. Being Muslim is a gift from Allah SWT. It's something to be proud of.
Just remember Islam does not end at the Hijab, Not having girlfrnds/boyfrnds and all that. There's more to Islam than that.
For the desis, a religious women is one who meekly obeys her husband's commands, is financially dependent on the male family members and who wears the hijab. In short, a pathetic woman.
Re: After ramadan
Bless her, you should count yourself lucky, as i keep getting told to, my husbands religious too, as in he reads 5 times and is more aware of being a muslim than i am. i an thankful now he is this way, before it would annoy me. im very lucky alhumdulilah, and so should you be.
Re: After ramadan
I am a fairly liberal guy and married a fairly liberal girl. I clean up my act a little in ramadan but then go back to the usual non-religious state. This time around I noticed that while I transitioned off the very next day - the wife has yet to do the same. I would like to be supportive in her new efforts - but at the same time part of me is thinking what if she keeps heading in this direction and becomes more conservative with time and starts doing hijab etc.
Its a difficult subject and I dont plan to discuss it with her. Can there be a happy medium where I can continue my choices and she hers. Are there any tips on dealing with a more religious spouse.
Ban the literature she is reading (it must be talibanic). Also look for the clues in her friends, maybe she is turning into not-a-normal-muslim-syndrome because of someone else. I feel you, who wanna live with a ninja !
Re: After ramadan
People change, whether they get married or not, and those closest to them are the ones who get affected by that change, positively or negatively. I can completely understand your situation. If my husband becomes more "religious" than me, deep in my heart I'd be in awe but I'd be, in my half hearted attempts of catching up, feeling behind and unworthy. BUT, all that would happen if he suddenly starts feeling superior over me. If your wife is changing but isn't putting any sort of pressure on you or making you feel inferior in any way, then let her. She's still your wife. Meanwhile, you do what yo have to, as long as it's all within the limits of a well defined value system....it's not always about doing what you're comfortable doing, is it? Success in this life or the hereafter never comes out of being comfortable. We all know that.
Re: After ramadan
I am a fairly liberal guy and married a fairly liberal girl. I clean up my act a little in ramadan but then go back to the usual non-religious state. This time around I noticed that while I transitioned off the very next day - the wife has yet to do the same. I would like to be supportive in her new efforts - but at the same time part of me is thinking what if she keeps heading in this direction and becomes more conservative with time and starts doing hijab etc.
Its a difficult subject and I dont plan to discuss it with her. Can there be a happy medium where I can continue my choices and she hers. Are there any tips on dealing with a more religious spouse.
Your answer is below
What is wrong with you people? What is so trollish about this question? Other than inviting the wrath of the hijabi hit squad. He said he is not religious and hence married a like minded lady. Now she is becoming more inclined towards religion, and perhaps that is why he is a bit concerned.
Well dude, perhaps you could talk to her about whats going on in her head, and share whatever concerns you have with her. I don't know maybe you guys will work something out. Well at least you will be on the same page with regards to these matters. If her reasons are convincing enough, that might also make you a part of the transition. It is always good to ask questions and learn.
Re: After ramadan
I see what you are saying. You fear what may come out of this – you think maybe she will reprimand you on little things, stop having fun, be ‘brainwashed’ possibly.
Seeing a change in your spouse can be hard, but look at it this way. You are a Muslim right? As a Muslim, you got to be cognizant of the fact that this world is temporary. Perhaps she will help ignite your interest in being a better Muslim, and you both can work together to improve and learn more together. I see this as a good opportunity for you to take part in this journey.. after all, seeking to do things for Allahs sake will matter in the long run. Keep communicating with her, and rethink the idea of her being more religious and figure out if you want to take part.