1000 nafal???? Are u kidding me?
Dude, I prayed a lot less than a thousand nawafil last night and my thighs are actually hurting me today! As far as I know, ibaadat should be done in moderation too.
Okay, like eid ive heard that people take SHAB-E-RAAT as well to the in-laws side. I want to know did any one send it or receive it? What items were included? Do only girls-side or even the boys-side take it too?
hunh???
well send patakhay if thats help.
btw the night is for Ibadaat, and not about Israf...in fact there is no concept of engagement in Islam so you dont need to stress about sending anything to anyone. but if they are sending anything, then like any other ordinary day send em some food (like what ever your guys making at home).
Okay, like eid ive heard that people take SHAB-E-RAAT as well to the in-laws side. I want to know did any one send it or receive it? What items were included? Do only girls-side or even the boys-side take it too?
Only item you need is a deep dish with a transparent bottom. You're going dish up to the moon....from the roof-top of your home.....and then hold it up to your fiance's face. Whilst in-laws gaze upon you adoringly.
On a more serious note....since when did Shab-e-Raat become something you "give" or "take"? That's news to me. I can never seem to remember when it takes place..and all I've heard is that you do ibadat on this day. Haven't heard of it becoming a social obligation. Stay at home...pray...make lots of dua for yourself, family, everyone. I think that sometimes turning things into a social affair/obligation....can decrease the value of a practice. Correct me if I'm wrong, but are Desi Muslims more conscious about Shab-e-Barat than the Arabs?
Re: After engagement, whats the concept of taking SHAB-E-RAAT?
daffy taking food to in laws is not anything compulsory. But i know if in laws are practicing it, then they do mind if they do not get anything when they were expecting it. Like my sis got married and went to a diff city and hence we couldnt send her the Breakfast (as per some stupid tradition) the next day of her marriage. her Saas really didnt like it. So suit yourself in this case. if ur in laws mind, then a plate of halwa is easier to send than listening to their taanay for the months to come.
2ndly just would like to mention here that ppl do cook meetha or namkeen on this day, but thats distributed among poors and neighbors as khairaat which is a good deed to do thru out the year if one can afford.
Sorry to burst your bubble but taking food (or other stuff) to in-laws or to anyone's place does not have any religious significance. Better be in front of Allah asking for forgiveness for every second you got on this night.
Pity that people (including myself) are progressively overlooking the importance of this night or wasting it in un-related activities.
i duno why our culture has so many "complexities" .. .. .. :s .. confused! .. .. .. and then on top of that .. they are "added" into religion ..
and i have questions about this night "praying" as well .. :) .. not want to get in details
Really 
Gulab jaman - Yummy 
I Heard its Pooora ( the biger one ) and add some kachooreez
make sure its full of fats
It just shows how much you care 
you did it?
Okay, like eid ive heard that people take SHAB-E-RAAT as well to the in-laws side. I want to know did any one send it or receive it? What items were included? Do only girls-side or even the boys-side take it too?
hain?? this night is not about stressing over your in-laws
Re: After engagement, whats the concept of taking SHAB-E-RAAT?
It surprises me how people would become all so religious in one second if the poor soul asked something. Its not like everyone of us just sits on the Jaa'namaz the day of shab-e-raat, the evening, the entire night till the morning. If there is a tradition of taking food items the day of shab-e-raat just to celebrate the day, it shouldnt be a big deal. If you dont celebrate it the way just say "No we dont take food" instead of demeaning her for not being as religious as the rest of us. I am sure many of the lot pharofy pathakay, watch tv, eat food, meet their family, have chit chat and ALSO pray the night. I agree it does not take away the value of the night.
Give it a break guys! Relax.
This thread wasn't even for me or what i want from my in-laws or give them. It was merely just to know how people go about celebrating such days with their loved ones, along with the priority of praying the night.
But life1 at its best makes it a personal attacking thread over who is more religious. Anyhow, i got my answer. Thankyou.
i duno why our culture has so many "complexities" .. .. .. :s .. confused! .. .. .. and then on top of that .. they are "added" into religion ..
and i have questions about this night "praying" as well .. :) .. not want to get in details
While flying plane is quite a complex task for me but If you ask pilot, he will say flying plane is not complex at all but may be because he has been doing that often, thats why i guess...
Re: After engagement, whats the concept of taking SHAB-E-RAAT?
I thought shab e barat was supposed to be a night of devotion and fasting(optional),where did this food thing come from,next time itll be food and friends and it will keep on adding until we get the full effect ,then we ll say its our culture to do it while taking away the true meaning.
Seems like yet another bollocks desi concept to me.
ditto. getting me all confused again for nothing...sheesh
Re: After engagement, whats the concept of taking SHAB-E-RAAT?
I didn't want to comment on this thread but can't help myself.
As far as I know, Shab-e-barat has no religious significance..... now bring out the fatwaas against me :p
P.S. Doing ibadat any time is good, so if you have arguments saying its a good thing to do ibadat, I agree..... but if you are doing ibaadat beacuse you think Allah miyaan will give you double sawab or something because the night is special, then sorry to burst your bubble, but its not.