I did not call it haram. You have just made up your mind and you dont want to read, what you dont want to read 
Cooking Food (time) + Taking it to inlaw or others (time) + staying there even for little (time) = time_you_have_this_night minus time_you_wasted = you do the math
Allah and Prophet has told us how to celebrate this night i.e by praying. I totally agree for doing this food-cooking etc on Eid as its the way we have been told to celebrate it
and finally, its a discussion and not debate. YOU have asked a question related to RELIGION, I replied with answers loaded with RELIGIOUS to-dos thats it. Now that answers was not to your liking is something else
chill!