The thread in Life 1 brought up a topic the hubz and i discuss every so often which is about being affectionate towards each other infront of the lil one.
The hubz reckons we should stop giving each other pecks because Heba insists on giving ‘paaris’ on the lips. And we’re afraid she’s going to do it outside as well… she has done it to a female cousin, and thankfully not to a male one as yet
We dont do kisses on the lips anymore and the hubz reckons we shouldnt at all.. but ive said that cheeks are ok, so she learns that on the cheek (and to females only) is ok…
I very nicely told her that on the lips was when she was older like mama and daddy.. and she understood.. to a degree i think.
Too much too soon? Im not sure kids that young really need to know the difference between a peck on the cheek and one on the lips. Kids are curious by nature, and such knowledge, in my personal opinion, should only be handed out on a need to know basis.
Showing affection to your spouse in a controlled way is good for the child, because I feel that it is important for the child to know that his/her parents have a good relationship. As for any PDA, that should be avoided, because you never know how the kid will construe it. At such a tender age, kids are not able to determine whats right or whats wrong.
I think that simply being nice to your spouse in front of your kids is a good enough signal. Physical interaction isnt required in order to give a good impression. That can always be left for behind closed doors....(in my opinion).
Physical affection infront of kids is a no no for me and I just don't know how well the children would understand kissing on cheeks to a female is okay and not okay for males.. I wont let my children kiss anyone, male or female.. kisses are only for parents :D
we r careful too. once the child hits 3 he/she not only observes but actually saves these things in memory and gossip around :) so to be affectionate around a 2-2.5 yrs old is fine but a three or more is risky.
We don't do any kisses infront of kids at all. yes when hubby comes from work or goes we giv casual hugs but thats also coz he works away from home n comes after 2 weeks.