Re: advise required from.... married ladies
If you dont stand up for yourself now...it will only get worse and worse. I have spent too many years of having to put up with the same crap about 'abhee paisay nahin hain" for my side of the family. In fact it is my family that is always giving gifts and money to me.
As someone else said..apnee izzat apney haath mein hee hai. I would tell him..dont you care about my family? Do you hate them or something? Because if you liked my family you would never have an issue with me buying stuff for them.
My own Mother in law gave me advice and said..Beta..dont ask your hubby if you can buy something. Just do it and let him find out for himself.
If you buy something, it is not hiding anything. Your hubby is earning money for the family, you are part of that family so whatever you spend on your family is your right.
I dont know when you are leaving, but I will say it again..get yourself a regular allowance from hubby with the stipulation that if you are spending from your own money, what or who you spend it on is your own business. I got mine direct deposited because even though we made this agreeement, he was never regular with handing over cash.
I know you dont want conflict but if you dont stand up for yourself, you will only make yourself more upset and it will build up over the years. It is better to take a stand for yourself now than to regret all the times you should have down the road (I have been married for 17 years now and have those "if only I had said this..." moments all the time!)