Re: advise required from.... married ladies
try your best not to argue about it...it's a very awkward situation that you are in and it can be very hurtful...i had the same problem as you, it was fine when he spent the money on his family but as soon as an occasion in my family came up he wouldn't have the money to spare.....i soon realised that it was my MIL feeding him all sorts of crap...although she'd happily take money from my family.
as we are cousins, we have the same family...but he is still very tight when it comes to sending gifts to our cousins or giving eidi to my family... i have realised that izzat apne haath me hoti hai...i go out and buy stuff and then let him know, once i've brought the items he can't say much....but i always make sure that i have brought gifts for his family as well....you have to keep the balance....