i have seen many traditions/ customs differences in may weddings and mosly the girl side has to accept the boys side and follow that..i dont like it because even the boy side can compromise but sadly mostly the girl side has to compromise..
well..why dont you talk to your finace and see whats his view on this…
one of my cousin, when she was getting married, her in laws bought her wedding day dress because the mother in law was keep on insisting that she want to pay for the wedding day dress…although mostly in our family, the girl side pay for it…she went with her mother in law and chose the dress and for walima it was from her mom side…