One of my very close relatives lives in this city which has tons of restaurants . When I go there I would like to go out to various desi restaurants but they r not into eating out. They r so close to us that we cannot stay in hotel we have to stay with them. I would love to pay the restaurant bills but they being host would not let me pay the bill either. They being people of modest means cannot afford to pay the bill for all of for more than once. i cannot split the bill either because of this desi thing because they will b offended.
And yes I cannot have a straight talk with them about this all either.
Any ideas ?
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if he's a close friend just say it, you'd like to go out and eat. I mean after being so close as you say, certain formalities shouldn't be there, like they always having to host and pay for you..one can also go to a new city and pay for their own or others' meals.
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That's tough :(
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Why don't you get the food delivered to their house and pay for it yourself?
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May be you can tell them you have already made some plans for visiting some place or shopping and that you will not be eating lunch or dinner as you will be out.
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Bring the food home or get it delivered there if they're not into eating out. If everyone does go to a desi restaurant....you can manage to beat him at paying the bill. You can be do it faster than him or maybe even manage to do it sneakily in advance.
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tell him you have a gift card or coupon?
:D
yes...I know desi restaurants rarely offer these.
tough situation.
how about you step out and get the food yourself....bring it home for everyone?
This & you can put it on your kids that flah is excited about this restaurant they saw online & wanted to try or you can also do what we usually do besides the above mentioned options. Tell the lady of the house to take the days off while you are there.
“Bhabi aap itna already kar rahi hain, chalay raat ka khana humari taraf say kahin bahar OR jub tak hum yahan pay hain aap nay lunch or dinner (whatever suits your family) nahi banana”
Between what Samad said & these tips you guys should be fine. You will need to be polite yet persistent at the same time. Also do expect to sacrifice couple of meals too.
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if he's a close friend just say it, you'd like to go out and eat. I mean after being so close as you say, certain formalities shouldn't be there, like they always having to host and pay for you..one can also go to a new city and pay for their own or others' meals.
I said close relative not close friend .
Why don't you get the food delivered to their house and pay for it yourself?
Desi restaurants do not deliver.
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which place you are visiting? i meant country and city? there are lots of desi restaurants delivering in big cities in Pak.