Re: advice...
i'm so glad rasmalai u r thinking positively now. u sure r sweet like rasmalai(my fav sweetdish)
Now Mixedbeauty u may not know it yet but ladies hav to do a lot of show-off infront of in-laws to keep things peaceful. these gifts n taking abuse is a norm how bahus get exploited but still hav to behave in our hypocrite society. i assure u if ur mom stops doing it today ur relatives will make fuss n create dramas of all sorts. So let her be safe in her environment. but do let know know how much u'll appreciate if she gives u a gift or too.
i can giv u one tip to send ur msg to ur mom in a quite way. write a diary or journal. state ur feelings clearly. don't make it too bitter. add some positive things abt family too esp ur mom and ur concerns for her. leave it open somewhere where she easily reads it. act innocent abt it.
She'll get ur msg n might be more deeply affected than ur arguements n demands.