advice...

[MixedBeauty]

@Rasmalaii

is it wrong to not like your mom?

I don’t know we just simply don’t get along. Ever since we were little she has been putting others before her own kids. We would have birthdays and our toys would be given to cousins and God knows who else. She does so much for her relatives in Pakistan and their kids, and doesn’t do enough for us. Not only that but she isn’t even like those sweet Pakistani moms. She won’t ask you how your day went, won’t ask if u ate, and when she does make something she’ll give most of it away to her friends.
She also gives more importance to work and making money. And when we go to Pakistan she flaunts her wealth and then people use and abuse her for her money. I guess in a way she does have a big heart in doing for those who are less fortunate but I feel as if she forgets her own kids. I get mad when she gives to others and not to her own kids, and as a result, I get lectured and we end up getting into an argument. Moreover, when my dad does the same as her, supporting his family, buying things for them, she complains and gets mad. I find it so hypocritical. I also feel like I’m beginning to think negative like her and I really don’t want to be anything like her!

Also i’m starting to be more possessive about our stuff, and having money spent on us and no one else. I know it’s good to spend on those who are less fortunate, but to the extent that you stop putting your own kids/family before others?

How am I supposed to deal with all this…and no I can’t talk to her, she doesn’t listen, and it’s always her way or the highway. She is never open to suggestions.

Could it be that I am I just being ungrateful and not a good enough daughter?

Your not alone. That sounds exactly like my mum. I sometimes wish i had a pakistani mum that would shower me with food n love and ask how my day went. My mum doesnt. She would buy for my cousins on my dads side and her own side. Even tho i have never got ONE present. Not even a CARD from any other my relatives. It makes me angry, that i’ve never recieved anything from anyone yet shes always thinking what to buy these vultures. Its never gonna end even if they abuse her (which they have) shes still gonna get them things. I know its rude but i dont giv a sh*t i’ve told them all how i feel about them and i dont talk to them. If my mum wants to be naive abt it and think they appreciate it when they DONT. then thats her problem. I feel the more i interfere and the more i ask her to stop. It jus causes conflict between us and i really cant be botherd with it anymore.