I need some advice related to this situation in my in-law family.
For a long period now I have observed my FIL drawing a line between MIL and us. I have realized that he is just continuing the same pattern as before we got married since he has been drawing the kids away from their mum for a long time.
To cut a long story short. I feel that FIL is using his kids in his dispute with MIL. Recently we got new phone number and FIL told my husband not to give it to his mum (MIL) and only to call FIL on his cell phone. So FIL doesnt want to have any contact with MIL and hybby seems to just do what his dad says so.
I think its totally insane and tragic. Apparantly there is a history in this family that I dont know. Hubby says that I dont know what I am dealing with when I tell him that this is wrong and shouldnt be happening.
They say that she is a mental patient but they dont treat her like one.
I cant be part of this and yet I dont feel as if I can stop things from happening in in in law family. I told hubby that this is wrong but there was just no response!!
I can see my husband being so cold. He is the most caring person I know!!
I feel sad about all this!!
CHameli i am kind of confused. This thread is similiar to the other one you opened and i think a lot of us gave you some good advice in there. What is the purpose of this one then?
this one is particuarly regarding fil not wanting us to call or contact MIL. and not sharing our new telephone number with her and only contact FIL.
my first thread was more general and in this one I really need some serious advice on what to do in tis case when my husband seem to listen to his father and I think that this is just wrong to cut off mil!!
Chameli, these stupid family fueds eat people alive! I hate them.
Unfortunately, I feel you are in for a show down. Meaning, there is a LOT of resentment towards their mother and in order to even curb it a little bit they will have to have it out. I just dont see any other way. Your FIL is setting himself up and doesnt even know it. When a parent uses their children to disrespect the other parent, they literally lower the standards with which they will be treated at some point. He has some personal issues with his wife and is using her children to hurt her. Im sure she is suffering everyday from seeing her own children despise her.
Does your husband listen to you? Is he easily pesuaded?