Advice Please

STA · May 9, 2011, 4:01pm

Re: Advice Please

Hello everyone. I have been lurking around GS for awhile now and, after seeing the excellent advice being given here, I thought i’d ask for some insight into an issue regarding me personally.

I am at an age now where my parents are actively searching for a rishta for me. They have also encouraged me and asked me that if I have anyone in mind, to let them know. Now, recently my cousin’s wife’s brother added me on facebook and we have been communicating a fair bit - today was the first time we spoke on the phone and it was for about 2.5 - 3 hours. Now this guy…I only saw him once before at my cousin’s wedding but iv’e heard things about him- i.e.: he used to lead a very party lifestyle etc but has now reformed. He is, however, only about 1 month older then me and due to this party lifestyle never went to university and is aiming to start this year. I have finished uni and am now looking for a job (i’m a lawyer). So a few ques:

He has expressed much interest in me but I am hesitant due to the fact that I do not know how my family would react as, according to them, nothing but a lawyer/dr/engineer will do. What do I do?
Indeed, your family will react. You are professional lady and hopefully get a good job in law firm/etc. This guy is not yet finished his education and wasting time in party for a while. You should find out dr/engineer or any other good professional guy.

Does it matter if I am ahead of him in this aspect of life?
It matters person to person. usually guy should be more educated than girls. Our desi society dont digest more educated girl easily.

Should I just give up now (while I am still in the getting to know him stage) or should I continue getting to know him?
No, if you agree with my reply to your question # 1, then you should forget him.
He is a very nice guy but I am just a bit worried about the education aspect. I do not mean to sound like a snob and I hope I don’t come across as one but I am just in need of some advice please.
You worried because your family is kind of educated and value it.
Thanks.

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