This is sort of an extension to the promises thread.
What would you do in this situation?
Somebody you know is struggling to achieve something, & you know that what they are trying to do is going to take a long long time to do, & even then there is no guarante that they will be successful. However, they have never mentioned to you that they are at all struggling, and there is a chance you may have it completely wrong. But, the time they are ‘wasting’ could in the future have a significant impact on your life.
The first option you have is to leave things as they are, hopefully they will work it out. If it doesn’t, when it starts to effect your life, you will deal with it then. I have advised that she herself is mad, and thinking about this too much.
Or secondly, do you say something to them, like do they want help etc? But you think it may offend them if you say this. And even if you do help, it will make things quite difficult for you right now, but better for the future.
I think screw the offending part and just talk to them honestly an offer your help. If the person really wants to be with you then he shouldn't be ashamed to ask for help
I agree and honest conversation is the best way forward but you should also make time for some introspection. Like what kind of effect is it going to have on her life? If the effects are material losses, is she willing to make sacrifices for him and his happiness?
Also is what he is pursuing at the moment something that gives him happiness or satisfaction in which case helping him and supporting him is easier or is he doing it for other reasons?
All you need to do is think what do you want for yourself.....and how bad
if you want the guy badly .....you should be willing to go along despite of difficulty..afterall nothing is ever guaranteed in life
and if you think you can get over the guy.....talk it out..lay out your expectations clearly.....and if you think that things are too 'uncertain'........ end it
Thanks for your replies, I agree with the talking it through option. It seems most sensible, but would it not be considered as interfering, when she doesn't need to as yet?
Observing this is freaking me out though, as myself I am completely clueless, where as she atleast sort of knows the score.