Re: Advice on marriage
regarding the study, my personal advice would be to talk it out with the guy.. do let him know what ure future plans are..regarding study, career etc.. it shouldnt come to him as a shock later on..
i myself got engaged few months before i graduated..i was 19 then..now im 20 hehe.. and will get married after 6 months..
i wanted to start my masters right away.. but id get married in between.. so i either wanted to finish my masters and then get married.. or get married and start later.. didnt want it to be in the middle of no where..
so i spoke this out with my fiance and his family, that i wish to do my masters later on.. and mashAllah everyone is supportive of it..
regarding the past relation etc.. this was on my mind too..but i always noticed that my fiance wasnt interested in talking about any of our pasts.. n he said we should try and be the best we can for each other and future.. past is gone n cant be changed so who cares..
once i even asked him directly if he wants to know anything about my past etc.. and he said that he doesnt wanna know cuz it doesnt affect him in any way..and i myself also am not interested to know his past.. so both of us aint bothered..
so.. we kept the past out of our relation.. till now atleast hehe..
another thing which in my opinion would be a good thing to sort out before hand is career.. whether u want to be a working lady or not?.. and what he wants..? (i did it)
im too young to give u any advice.. but i thought id share my experience with u..
im sure the elders here can guide us better! =)
one more suggestion... talk to ure mother about any questions u have because its one of the most important decisions of ur life.. no one can guide u and understand u better than your mum.. =)