A guy's mom can be really insecure about losing her son to any girl, no matter she has been raised. So, when you go there, be your polite nice self....BUT focus more on BONDING with his MOM and SISTERS. They might feel irritated if you stick yourself to the guy the whole time.....so pay MORE attention to mom and sisters. Take an interest in them. Ask them questions. Say to the mom that you have heard so many wonderful things about her and the sisters....that it's a pleasure to finally meet them. Compliment the cooking.....and designing of the house, for example. Ask if mom/sisters need help in the kitchen? Maybe help carry stuff from/to the kitchen.
A guy's mom might not like you for no reason other than her own jealousies. BUT that shouldn't prevent you from being nice and trying to connect with her. Because that way you'll know that you gave it your BEST shot, and the problem is really with her, and not you. And when it comes to that.......let the guy take care of it. A guy who is really interested in a girl......will stand up to family and won't give up on marrying you.....especially if mom's reasons are POINTLESS.
And I would suggest that you get some help from the guy. BEFORE you meet his family, ask him what his mom and sisters are like personality wise. Ask him what topics they mom and sisters like to talk about.....and that way you can bring those up during the conversation. Ask him what things his mom likes. For example if she likes particular flowers or sweets/cake.....you can take it with u when you go there. Don't get nervous. Just make a list of all the things you need to know about his mom and sister.....and ask him about it prior to the meeting. When you're facing the unknown, it's good to have some planning. Best wishes and don't forget praying.
he has told me his mom is welcoming, his older sister doesnt talk much but his younger one is a bit mean and snotty...
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