Advice needed

[gudiaali]

Re: Advice needed

@Paheli00

She’s hesitant to talk about her cycle with this guy BUT is ready to have sex with him?

Whether she likes it or now, it’s obviously going to come up in a few days. There will be plenty of other awkward moments in the first few weeks as she starts sharing a room/bed/bathroom with this guy. Tell her to just get over it and tell him what’s going on. If she’s really that uncomfortable talking about it, she can easily send him an e-mail.

It’s too late for the pills. She should have taken the time to calculate this like 1-2 months prior to the wedding date.

I am not sure how talking about it and readiness to have sex are co-related. She will be having sex with him once shes married to him, however, talking about anything relating to sex,marriage consummation etc when she is not yet married to him, is making her uncomfortable. sex between spouses is something which is there by default,its a given, yet there are not many couples who would talk about having it or discuss the details of it with each other before actually getting married, though they all are ready to have it after marriage.
In her case, one of the reasons she is hesitant to tell him in advance is what if the guy is not thinking on the lines to consummate on the first night, and if she tells him, would it make him think that she is thinking on those lines(she doesn’t want to come across as desperate) or if it would make him think that the girl is thinking him as a desperate who would definitely want to have it on first night and hence telling him in advance not to expect it? There are many things going on in her mind which is making her confused about the matter.