your wedding is just few days away and you are certain that you will be menstruating on your wedding day. What would be the most appropriate thing to do? should one tell the fiance beforehand so that he doesn’t get the surprise aka shock on the day or should one wait for the day to arrive and then tell?
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Always set the proper expectations and communicate regularly and in a positive way.
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Take the pills to delay yaar
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If this is an issue … then why are you getting married in first place.
You both are mature and adult and understand biology of each gender… You need to communicate this situation… and your future should understand this is normal and part of package…
If he is desperate… then you should be open minded and think out of box…
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take pills to delay the periods
best and easy way
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Talk to him? I don’t think it’s inappropriate to talk about menstruation cycles or sex for that matter. If not him then who do you talk to about these things.
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Hey,its about my junior colleague who is having this issue. The wedding date was fixed 6 months earlier so she couldn’t calculate the dates with accuracy.
i have also suggested her to talk it right now but shes hesitant as the two are on talking terms but not really frank or close to each other.
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will pills work now? her wedding is just 10 days away.
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So strangers are supposed to exchange 3 words and have sex but can’t talk about physiology?
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In my backwards family the girls mother would inform the grooms mother and she would tell her son
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Periods are perfectly normal (why should he be shocked? it’s just blood. Hello childbirth? ) and people do not need to consummate their marriage on the first night 
Your colleague does not need to inform him in advance, it’s no big deal.
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Tauba 
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She’s hesitant to talk about her cycle with this guy BUT is ready to have sex with him? 
Whether she likes it or now, it’s obviously going to come up in a few days. There will be plenty of other awkward moments in the first few weeks as she starts sharing a room/bed/bathroom with this guy. Tell her to just get over it and tell him what’s going on. If she’s really that uncomfortable talking about it, she can easily send him an e-mail.
It’s too late for the pills. She should have taken the time to calculate this like 1-2 months prior to the wedding date.
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There are kids dying in Africa, and you’re worried about this?
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I am not sure how talking about it and readiness to have sex are co-related. She will be having sex with him once shes married to him, however, talking about anything relating to sex,marriage consummation etc when she is not yet married to him, is making her uncomfortable. sex between spouses is something which is there by default,its a given, yet there are not many couples who would talk about having it or discuss the details of it with each other before actually getting married, though they all are ready to have it after marriage.
In her case, one of the reasons she is hesitant to tell him in advance is what if the guy is not thinking on the lines to consummate on the first night, and if she tells him, would it make him think that she is thinking on those lines(she doesn’t want to come across as desperate) or if it would make him think that the girl is thinking him as a desperate who would definitely want to have it on first night and hence telling him in advance not to expect it? There are many things going on in her mind which is making her confused about the matter.
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An there are kids dying in Africa, and you are reading and replying to this thread???
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its human body, tell him to rub it on his face like a war paint for christ sake
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Depends on various factors .
Are both in communcation terms? if yes , then its ok for her to mention it just vaguely to set the expectations. She doesnt have to be very open about it . Just a chosen few generic words for him to understand should be enough. I would never go into a whole discussion of a 1000 words on this topic coz its a very personal issue.
If they are not yet communicating much , then ask her to just be quiet and not stress about it . On the day , hopefully her partner will understand the phenomenon .
I know many girls who started their period on or a day before the wedding , coz girls are stressed and stress can cause these issues . So its not really a biggie .
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I think telling him about it would depend on your relationship with him as your fiance.. if you two are already close/ love rishts etc .. then you can tell him .. but even its arranged and there are still barriers.. there are ways you can subtly mention it .. btw - not everyone does the deed on their 1st night, its not a requirement lol..
You can say something like … around our wedding days, I may have my monthly visit, if you know what i mean..
and leave it at that ?
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awkward