The reason that made a thread here is b/c i have some life relationship issues that I need some advice.
Now that i’m done school, my parents are trying to set me up with potential guys. So I got this one rishta that is good but the guy is 4 yrs younger than me. My parents tell me that its ok to get married as long as you and the guy are ok with it.
The thing is that i am not sure if i’m ok and i don;t even know if the guy is ok, what if his parents are talking him into it b/c they found a very “good” girl for their son.
I saw the guy’s picture and he is pretty built and i think if we were to stand together i don;t think i will look older than him. We would look good together but he is still young in age.
The reason that made a thread here is b/c i have some life relationship issues that I need some advice.
Now that i'm done school, my parents are trying to set me up with potential guys. So I got this one rishta that is good but the guy is 4 yrs younger than me. My parents tell me that its ok to get married as long as you and the guy are ok with it.
The thing is that i am not sure if i'm ok and i don;t even know if the guy is ok, what if his parents are talking him into it b/c they found a very "good" girl for their son.
I saw the guy's picture and he is pretty built and i think if we were to stand together i don;t think i will look older than him. We would look good together but he is still young in age.
Any comments/advice from anyone.
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it all depends on mental and physical maturity. u need to meet this guy and see for urself if u and he are compatible. age does matter depending on how old u are and he is. how old are u btw?**
it all depends on mental and physical maturity. u need to meet this guy and see for urself if u and he are compatible. age does matter depending on how old u are and he is. how old are u btw?
Hadrat Khadija was older then the Holy Prophet (swt) ....
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if u feel that ull be able to adjust to the fact taht he's younger then you then whats the problem ....my cousin married a guy 10 years younger then her and they've got such a strong marriagee!!!! and there so close to each other ...its all abt com patibility at the end of the day age is just a number :)
In a lot of couples where the wife is older then husband, it all boils down to your relationship and how you feel about one another.
You're going to have to talk to him and get to know him more. Dont dismiss him because of his age...you never know what Allah swt has planned for you. Just like no two people are identical, their destinies wont be either. We all have a different path to follow.
The standard is the guy being older then the girl...we all know that. But just because something doesnt follow the norm doesnt make it any less-okay or rewarding.
i am 27 and he is 23 yrs old.
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i believe the age difference is ok coz u both are young masha Allah. if i were u i wud go ahead after meeting to boy. wish u all the best ji**
Thanks everyone! i feel so much better and i think you all are right, i should give this guy a chance. who knows may be this guy might turn out to be compatible with me.
They're right - what matters most is compatability. I am almost 5 years older than my husband. I'm also about 4 inches taller. To me (and others grrrr!!), my husband is the most attractive man on the planet. He is the biggest blessing I could ever have received and I am thankful every day of my life that he is my husband and the father of our boyz. In August, we celebrated our 11th anniversary! And they have been the happiest, best years that anyone could ever have.
If you are a good match with this man, dont worry about age difference, height difference etc. In the end, those things dont matter a bit.
well i think its different cos males tend to mature a lil later than women...so they may not be on the same level
Yep, that would be my only concern too..... meet him, talk to him and try to discern how mature he is. 27 is a great age to get married (for both males & females), but I'm not sure about a 23 yrs. old ..... thats a pretty immature age (again, for both males & females).
I have met 16 year olds who were more mature than some of the 30-somethings that I know. Its a very individual thing. This whole thing about boys maturing later is applicable to children. Young children. And sure, some 23 year olds are immature but this goes for either sex. Some are more mature than their elders.
The issue is not whether the man is OK with having an older wife, the issue is whether YOU are OK with having a younger man as husband.
Most women think of the man as the security provider. If you don't have a mental block on those terms then why not. I know of a couple where the husband is 20 years younger and they both are happy. The woman in that case is awesome fit figure wise and doesn't look like she is 20 years older.
They're right - what matters most is compatability. I am almost 5 years older than my husband. I'm also about 4 inches taller. To me (and others grrrr!!), my husband is the most attractive man on the planet. He is the biggest blessing I could ever have received and I am thankful every day of my life that he is my husband and the father of our boyz. In August, we celebrated our 11th anniversary! And they have been the happiest, best years that anyone could ever have.
If you are a good match with this man, dont worry about age difference, height difference etc. In the end, those things dont matter a bit.
At the beginning i was not ok and i told my parents that i would not marry anyone younger than 1 yr.......i never dreamed that my husband would be younger than me.
but my family thinks its good rishta for me so i kinda have to think about it. I was talking to several ppl, they alll said that i should firdt meet this guy and see how he is...may be he is mature...he might be nice and may be he is meant for me.
so now i think i have accepted the fact that he would be younger than me.
