Hi guppies,
Need your advice
I have a friend jiski 1 year back baat pakki ho gahi hai. It is an arrangend marriage. At first she was not happy with this ‘engagement’.But later on she was happy. The guy was frm the start very happy
Since a month her fiancee is doing very weird. If she calls, he doesnt pick up.
If she sends messages he doesnt answer.When she called from another phone, he picked the phone and when he heard her voice he disconnected
What do you guys think that she should do?
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Are they into LDR? I believe if she can, she should see him in person and speak this out.
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after there 'engagement' she communicated with him through msn or mobile
they have never spoke to each other in person or gone out
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Looks like she did not tell you what she said or did. She should come and open a thread herself so that she could answer questions and get real advice.
i was going to write give him a chance b/c he might be busy, might since he did pick up from the other phone it's clear he's avoiding her. maybe he was around his parents, maybe he hasn't told his friends that he's engaged, or maybe he got the vibes that the girl was unhappy with the engagement and now he's feeling the same way too! anyway always give the guy a benefit of a doubt and keep it calm. ex. instead of writing "WHERE WERE YOU? UR IGNORING MY PHONE CALLS!!" just be like "hey..long time...i tried to call and i couldn't get thru..just wanted to catch up..fiance"
i think hes anoyed about something..give him some time..then CALMLY ask him what is bothering him?..
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i agree with jalebi. Maybe he got the feeling that she wasn't happy and now doesn't understand what's going on either. Also, I'm not sure how true this might be but maybe he has a problem talking to her if like they're just engaged. I know some super religious guys that like won't becuase they think it's wrong since they're not like nikkah-fied yet. I dunno...but yeah...she should let him calm down and then nicely ask what's up.
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The guy needs space. Either he is hiding some thing or running away from some thing. In both the cases its important to talk about it. If he has some thing in his heart than he should spill it out or if some thing on mind, than she needs to know.
In both the cases communication is required. But i guess if some one is just running away from talking than its better to leave them alone, after trying every thing you can.
Best of luck
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i saay dont fone him as much give him some space n maybe hell be okay or the girls parents can talk to him........?
i totally agree…:aq: your friend going after him like that might get the larka to think that he has the upper hand and might start treating your frnd like dirt:ASA: i say your frnd tried contacting him he dint reply jus let it go if he wants to talk to your frnd he shud call her now…and if things still dnt seem to get any brighter tas wen you shud get your parents involoved !!! BEST OF LUK TO YOUR FRND!!!:biggthumb
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She has tried everything to contact her fiancee several times (call him, message him , mail him).
Usually I believe two wrongs don't make one right, but at times you have to treat people in the same manner as they behave with you for some time just to bring them back to earth.
She needs to ignore him and take him out of her mind for sometime till he realizes his worth. Sorry for such words but that attitude needs to be dealt with in similar manner. If he were a caring person he would not have left his fiance in a continuous torture without informing her the reason of his anger / depression (if any) that is forcing him to avoid her. He is WELL AWARE how painful the situation is for his fiance that she is confused and wondering all kinds of possible mistakes she might have made, and she might have lost her sleep and appetite because of his behavior.
My request from the sister is to give him the treatment of his own dose. Mind you, he would come running after her within a week or so, when he realizes that he has been given absolutely no importance. That would be the time to know why he was behaving in such an unreasonable manner.
or if he is not responding ot ur firend for a long time..then tell her ot talk to the guy's mom and tell her that he is acting strange and if this keeps up..i cannot go on this way and i will have ot terminate the relaitonsip..phir dekna kaise forun seeda hota hai!..;)
btw..abhi sehi yeh larka itne mind games kelrah hai to kal ko shaadi ke baad kia karega?..he seems very immature and hard to deal with..like a big baby..
..i cannot go on this way and i will have ot terminate the relaitonsip..phir dekna kaise forun seeda hota hai!..;)
lol haha i agree!!!!!
but still i think jus leave him for ahwhile dnt chase him ..if she chases him he mite think he'll always hav the upper hand and can boss her around....
and if he still persists to act like a "big baby" as soni sed. She shud tel her parents then ... this isnt some mild fling its the question of the rest of her life and chances shudnt be taken!!!