Since then she called to apologize for saying many things (I am not sure how much she remembers) and I played it off like it was not big deal...but it is a HUGE deal! I have tried to do the right thing and steer clear of any temptation, but its pretty hard this time around because 1. We are very similar in terms of personality (not the other haram stuff) 2. She is damn attractive (as much as a Pakistani girl) 3. It is so easy to talk/get along.
Now the problems part: 1. She is not Muslim 2. I can't deal with the drama of her BF 3. Although I am not engaged/my parents have not selected anyone for me, I am expected to marry a Pakistani Pakhtun girl college educated in the West.
Any advice?
definitely... try to forget her. she drinks, she is a christian, differnt nationality... so many things are against her. I dunno why but i dun like the inter racial marriage thing. I mean many ppl of diff castes, religion etc DO get married but I think as it is, its difficult to settle down with a person of same nationality, imagine the conflicts and probs a person has to face in inter racial marriage.
u seem like a gud guy and decent... dun let lust control u. its just infatuation(cus shes so attractive).... better marry a gal frm ur place... no one is sayin u dun get to choose the girl... talk for some time, get to know each other with the gal ur parents want to fix u wid and .... the rest will b ok!