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heck most men are tharkis...you have to put some effort in to straighten them out.
Agreed about tharki men. And the men has to be willing to be straightened out liken this guys abrubt behaviour (especially if he is telling Kareena that he is chatting to other girls..who does that?) then maybe she is right in leaving him.
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Well you've definitely got urself in to a bit of a mess here, but as others have pointed out u need to be sure of exactly what u want, one thing i'd ask u is would u feel differently if this other man wasn't in ur life? Maybe ur not letting urself resolve things with ur husband because deep inside u actually want to be with this other man..Well if that is the case let me just point out something which u stated urself...ur not sure if he has any feelings for u?! So in other words ur going to end everything with ur husband for someone who might not even have any feelings for u or think of u as more than a friend...
Obviously i'm only suggesting this based on the presumption that apart from ur husbands attitude the other MAIN reason for u not wanting to resolve anything is this other guy...Only u know what the real reasons are...
Good luck :)
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Ok supoose you get divorced from your husband and then get married to the one you love
what ifff he changes ? what if he makes you guilty of your past after 2 or 3 months...
i think you should talk to your husband and sort out matters ..... and if still they dont get sorted out then do what your parents say ..
but please dont get yourself out from one trouble and put into other ...
may ALLAH bless you
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oo you poor little girl........its just the temporary feelings for teh other guy.... they source is your sense of revenge.....you want to get even with the hubby..so u let yourself go to this other guy............
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I would advise you to communicate the best you can and save your marriage, try your best so you dont have any regrets if you guys both do decide to part...
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p.s grass always seems greener, this guy may seem like he's the best thing since sliced bread, but your hurt and vulnerable...don't do it.
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p.s grass always seems greener, this guy may seem like he's the best thing since sliced bread, but your hurt and vulnerable...don't do it.
Agreed!
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i suggest u talk yur parents so they can call up yur khala and her husband and other family members of ur husband this matters should discuss in a relax manner so may be then yur husbnd understnd meaning of nikkah and marriage ...then both parents ask from u and him what u both want becoz this is not joke this matter of 2 life and plus 2 family
ALLAH give u strenght and do best for u AMEEN
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hmm try to work out things, may Allah help you amin.
But breaking a marriage is a very difficult thing :( though i understand what u r going through, but since your parents are in it now maybe things will get better..... BUT stubborn tharki men are HARD to change.
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I'm sorry, I've read some of these other posts and have to agree. I initially stated that divorce seems like an appropriate way to go, but I was wrong. You really should try to fix things and see where you and your hubby stand. You shouldn't give up so easily. And don't worry about your feelings for this other guy. They can fade with ease if you let them. Focus on you and your husband, and see if you guys can work hard, compromise and find a way to fix the problems that you two are having. Good luck. May Allah (swt) make it easy for you both.