OP: please grow up! No offense but these feelings are poison for any relationship. If you can't control your feelings which is probably normal given your age and raging hormones.................STAY AWAY! ISLAM says that when a non mehram man and woman meet then the third person there is SHAYTAN. You should be very cautious about people whom you have access to..........for example shahrukh khan is not a threat to your relationship.......you probably dont have access to him except in your dreams.....but for those whom you associate with KEEP A HALAL DISTANCE. imagine if your finance has similar feelings for his ex or coworker how would you feel.....respect yourself, your finace and your relationship. remember Allah is watching and knows whats in our hearts and minds.
In OP's own words
1) She cannot or will not stop seeing her ex current friend (made up an excuse that he needs her now, so she cant abandon him)
2) She will not break off her engagement because she respects her fiance too much.
1 and #2 or mutually exclusive. She has to pick one. Choice is hers - either she decides to grow up (which is a necessitiy for marriage) or she can destroy 4 lives (hers, fiance's, her ex's and her ex's fiancee's)
OP: please grow up! No offense but these feelings are poison for any relationship. If you can't control your feelings which is probably normal given your age and raging hormones.................STAY AWAY! ISLAM says that when a non mehram man and woman meet then the third person there is SHAYTAN. You should be very cautious about people whom you have access to..........for example shahrukh khan is not a threat to your relationship.......you probably dont have access to him except in your dreams.....but for those whom you associate with KEEP A HALAL DISTANCE. imagine if your finance has similar feelings for his ex or coworker how would you feel.....respect yourself, your finace and your relationship. remember Allah is watching and knows whats in our hearts and minds.
haha..thanks man. I was feeling a lil down but this cracked me up..halal distance? lmafo...
halal distance means STAY THE HECK AWAY....Non-mehram men and women cannot SIMPLY BE FRIENDS...........this the cause of variety of problems in our society........Don't mean to mean and spiteful but OP you know the answer.........our Quran and Hadith spells out clearly but if you chose to violate and justify then deal with the consequence. YOU ARE BEING DISHONEST WITH YOUR FINACE and your relationship will suffer.........feel sorry for the guy.......but these days but partners come into marriage with LOTS OF BAGGAGE unfortunately..........seek help from creator and ask for guidance...........keep some fasts.......There is no such thing as friend or friends with benefits or all of this crap that is subject material of movies and dramas both in west and east. Marriage is the foundation of Family.......