Salams sisters!
For those sisters who are/were marrying someone from abroad and really didnt have much chance to interact or meet face to face prior to the wedding:
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Give him a few anonymous abusive phonecalls and judge him by his reaction... OK ladies, not really advocating this here, it can open up a whole can of worms...
Ask anyone you know that knows him, about him. Try to find out if he has a temper, can take a joke etc. I think temper problem men are a no go zone.
make sure he's worth leaving your family for. i say that in all honesty because i've seen a ton of guys and a few girls that got engaged and still continued to date people while they were engaged to people back home, or even a few states away. So if I were you i'd try to be able to chat online or call or skype with him after he gets off of work. chances are if he's not with you, and not at home with his family he's out with other single guys. I only met one girl who cheated while being engaged but that in itself threw me off guard, it seems to be the more innocent someone looks.
So that's my advice...
by the way one of the girls that cheated was caught when her fiance went back home to surprise her for her birthday and noticed someone kept calling her at night, finally took her cell phone and saw inappropriate text messages and had to break it off. it happens, be wise about who you leave home for.
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^^ I AGREE!
I know a girl who is currently engaged to a guy from pakistan and she is still seeing her current boy friend...... I feel so bad for the guy she's engaged to. Her boy friend n her r not a "committed" couple..their relationship is more physical than anything else. I know I should not say that stuff but its true. Sweet_lil_hunnie is right! There r MANY people these days (both girls n guys) who keep seeing other ppl while they're engaged. Its so sad...
Thanks guys for the warning signal!
But what kind of questions would you ask a prospective? Please dont quote those 100 pre marriage questions, as I wouldnt answer them, it seems like a job interview!
But seriously, those sisters who have already being through that stage, what did you guys talk about? Esp, if your calls were infrequent as your hubby was travelling or busy with his work? What I mean to say is what were you able to gauge out in your quality time conversations.
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OK, I got married (only nikkah) to a guy whose family has been family friends to my family since last 40 years. He also has been friend of my brother in their childhood. Even then I did not get to meet to know him. I went to Pakistan for my Nikkah last August. And did not get to meet or talk to him until the nikkah day itself. I stayed in Pakistan for next 10 days since my fall classes were starting soon.
Uptil now, we have been talking on phone and webcam. And I can say that I love him to death. We have solved many practical problems together and have stood beside each other for different stuff. I know its weird for one to understand how did we do all this only thru phone. TRUST ME we did. Its been over a year now and we have learnt so much about each other.
I would say about this addressed question is that dont stress out knowing about him just in no time. Give your relationship a time. That is the only way you can set strong basis for your relationship. sometimes its too early to know about different stuff. Our parents have understandings mashallah because they have spent so much time together.
everything takes time. you just have to be patient and make your conversations productive and beneficial ofcourse. Inshallah there ll be a time when you ll know him inside out. or may be u ll be able to know a lot about him before your wedding.
Good Luck :)
Hubnub - dont worry, and take your time in getting to know each other, get to 2 know each other’s likes/dislikes, hobbies, thru the phone,webcam, letters. just enjoy the getting to know each other phase. 
cherry..mashallah that is really sweet!! i got married too from pak..(it was kinda lik love at first sight!!)and we used to talk all the time over the phone ( i was only nikkafied first ) and we understood each other soooo well, i then went back a year later and got married and bought him back wiv me, nearly 9 yrs on and we are happily married with 2 kids now, masha-allah!
Angelfairy- i feel sorry for the husband/wifes back home of the ppl who mess about behind the spouse back, its mean and not right and they shouldnt decieve any1 like that. 
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cherry bell its so nice to hear that....... MashAllah. May ALLAH keep u guys happy!
Thanks so much girls... you guys are sweet hearts... oh by the it was not this last august, I meant August 2008. So Mashallah we have been nikahfied since more than a year and Inshallah getting married soon. :)
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aww Cherry!
ur story's sooo cute! ^__^ mA.
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If groom is from abroad, I would absolutely make sure that we both agreed on WHERE we would be living and for how long in one place. Sometimes alot of tensions can arise from one person moving to another country after marriage and hating it, then the other side is expected to move to the other country after they had agreed something different.
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^ agreed!
also its important to figure out things like children and whats important in a marriage.
my cousin is having her nikkah to a guy she's never met in person. they've had really extensive conversations on chat though and over the phone.
its very strange to me, to be honest, but i have nothing but admiration for girls who do go through this situation- it takes a lot of courage and a lot of faith in the people around you to agree to marrying someone who is essentially a stranger.
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My best friend was introduced to her husband thru some family friends. he lives in Saudi. they spoke over the phone / chat and after a month she got nikhafied over the phone.. I never thought she out of all people will ever get married to someone like this.. first time she saw her husband was on the barat day in Pakistan and after that she moved to Saudi ... She is mashallah happily married and very much in love with her husband
^ agreed! also its important to figure out things like children and whats important in a marriage.
my cousin is having her nikkah to a guy she's never met in person. they've had really extensive conversations on chat though and over the phone. its very strange to me, to be honest, but i have nothing but admiration for girls who do go through this situation- it takes a lot of courage and a lot of faith in the people around you to agree to marrying someone who is essentially a stranger.
I totally agree with u! Its very strange to me as well. I knew my fiance for 5 years before we got engaged and still feel like I keep finding out new things about him :P. But I really respect the people who have actually that much courage and faith in their loved ones (parents etc) and actually go through a marriage like that. Best wishes to ur cousin :)
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Asalamalekum girls! :)
i can definately relate to this topic as im in a similar arrangement myself! I just got engaged a couple of months ago, to a guy whose family i have known since i was 12. His parents often come to the UK to visit their family or to spend their holidays, whereas him and his siblings only ever do on occasion, so i only met the guy himself on two occasions (when i was 14, and then when i was 17_ am 21 now). Even then our meetings consisted of a very brief "asalamalekum", and a polite nod of the head. niether of us taking any real interest in the other.
However, last year his parents sent a proposal for me, and it took almost a year for my parents to convince me to agree to meet him lol. I agreed on the basis that i genuinely do think his parents are the nicest people MASHALLAH se, and so out of courtesy the least i could do was meet him, and if nothing came of it, then so be it. So just three weeks before we are due to meet, the phone rings, and its him! :O you can imagine my surprise (and my nerves! i had no time to compose them lol) so i gingerly attend the call, and he says "sorry, i know this is a bit awkward, but i wanted to talk to you first to make sure you are aware of the situation before we meet."... now it might sound a bit silly, but when he said this, and the way in which he said this, i just knew this is the sort of guy i could see a future with :) At a later date his mum told us that while his parents were planning the meeting etc, he stopped them and asked "has anyone even asked ____? is she even aware of whats being planned here? :S" which i think was super nice of him! :)
so anyhows, he arrived at heathrow on a friday. We met on the saturday, where him and i spent a few hours in a shopping centre just walking around making small talk, and by the evening we had both decided that the pairing was a good one. On the sunday, we got engaged :)
In terms of conversation, we're both complete strangers to each other, our lives are so different etc, but we make small talk. Worldly issues etc, and its nice. This way i get to know his view of life, and his opinions on matters etc, and he gets to know mine.
And yes, i do sometimes think that it all happened a bit too soon, but then again i think that if you meet someone who seems like a nice person and more, there is no need to suspect ALLAH's generosity, and doubt the future. Like with all aspects of life, leave this one too in the hands of the Almighty, and INSHALLAH all will be well :)
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^ thats so cute! Kind of reminds me of my story in some parts =)
Salams sisters!
For those sisters who are/were marrying someone from abroad and really didnt have much chance to interact or meet face to face prior to the wedding:
online and on the phone. we had one interaction before we got married, and that was the engagement. so in a sense, our baat-pakki was done over the phone. everything happened really quickly.