Re: Advice from Brides!!!
same here..i basically gave my mom & sis free reign on it all...just tell me where to be at what time! i honestly had no desire in becoming Bridezilla, i just wanted to be a wife! in fact, my husband and I asked for just a nikkah at the masjid followed by an intimate family dinner, we told my mom that instead of spending money on a lavish wedding, gift it to us in the form of a down payment on a house! yea, that didn't go over so well! lol! as we were both the youngest and last to be married in our families, we grinned and bared it for their sake, and did what we were told....
Ah this seems so similar to my own position right now, at first I kept complaining to my parents simple nikkah no wedding reception, just let the boys side do a walima cus its sunnah- why take on unneccesary burdens when you don't need to?BUT I'm the eldest, apparently only those girls who do wrong things with the 'boy' have such a simple nikkah etc etc. I argued a lot but caved in- the stress is just not worth it!
In the end I started being tempted by the beautiful halls and the alluring offers of jalebi junctions and flowers decorations, stages , runways etc. But that's when the costs came up, £9000 aka $14000 aka PKR 1300000 just for a hall for people to sit in and for them to fed! This put things back into perspective again. My fiance always tells me, the injustice of this world is the stark differences between the rich and poor, you see the poor right outside your door step in karachi begging for roti that costs hardly 3 rupees, and across the other side of city people spending rediculous money on designer dresses they wont wear twice. Those who have money spend it freely, by no means am I saying stop spending it on what you want, but this world is fleeting it lasts but a moment and what will be remembered isn't what colour dress you wore or how heavy the kaam was but how many good deeds you performed, whether you were a good wife, daughter, sister and so on.
I think the answer as to how you don;t freak out about whether your stage turned out as expected, or whatever, is that you realise, hey I'm stressing over a possible 6-8 hours in my life, its gona fly by as quickly as it came. You spend months worrying planning for what? In the end the person sitting next to you, your future with your husband is what you;re really looking forward to, when you remember that you realise how trivial your worries of centrepieces, red carpet entrances etc. really are.
My advice- look at the bigger picture!
. and must be pretty level headed.