Many many congrats to you. My advise to you would be to the first 6 months will be very very tough. Their will be times..when you will be tested..but know that..no good comes out if you're not being patient. By patient i mean, communicate but do not ever utter something from your tongue which you regret later. There will things..where you aren't going to like what he does or vice versa. Just know that..it is ok to..argue, fight but do not give up on your relationship. And finally, if you are ever looking for advise on your relationship..go to friends, counselors etc. If you share it with your parents..anything negative, parents take x 100. And please...keep things between you two and try to figure out life on your own terms.
Tons of people are asking me how is it and I'm kind of hesitant to answer because it is fine. Mashallah everything is, but I also know it takes time for things to go sour. So I'm kind of cautiously in flinch mode. Good habits develop from standards set in the beginning so I'm trying to keep everything positive.
I had my nikkah in aug and wedding in nov, so i'm going through the 1st year honeymoon phase.
What ive learnt in the first few months is there will be great deal of interference from people who will try and do everything to hurt your happiness but do not let it affect you and talk it through. Talking is the most important thing,along with trust.
Give each other space but spend valuable time with each other, do not suffocate each other. We both dont really communicate during the day (you know the "what did you have for breakfast? what you eating? cheesiness), we only speak if needed but give each other time during the evening since we're both in different cities and can often speak on the phone for 4-5 hours.
1 thing though, you will definitely get to experience his mood swings.. ask him whats wrong, show that you care and are there for him and ask him to talk it through with you and if he gets rattled and annoyed BACK OFF!! its for your own good...lol.
Here's an advice I haven't seen others mention: pray together! Allah created you, Allah created your partner. Who knows you better other than Allah? Pray for guidance, for understanding and being patient with your partner, for having that love for him/her, and ask that Allah makes it easy for your partner to understand you, be patient with you and love you too. =)
Congratulations! Well my advice is kind of few days too late now :) Hunker down, ego out, partnership starts. Be flexible as living with some one 24/7 is not easy, both of you will need to compromise probably. Good luck. Report back in one year.
Got married this weekend. Mashallah the event went good. I actually had fun during it but hated the photoshoots.
So any advice for my newly married self because my family didn't even bother. Lmao. They think I'm too self sufficient which is the impression I give off.
Here's an advice I haven't seen others mention: pray together! Allah created you, Allah created your partner. Who knows you better other than Allah? Pray for guidance, for understanding and being patient with your partner, for having that love for him/her, and ask that Allah makes it easy for your partner to understand you, be patient with you and love you too. =)
and CONGRATULATIONS!!
Best advise ever!. Praying together!. I think...one scholar told me in masjid that..couple who prays together..sticks together..!
I had my nikkah in aug and wedding in nov, so i'm going through the 1st year honeymoon phase.
What ive learnt in the first few months is there will be great deal of interference from people who will try and do everything to hurt your happiness but do not let it affect you and talk it through. Talking is the most important thing,along with trust.
Give each other space but spend valuable time with each other, do not suffocate each other. We both dont really communicate during the day (you know the "what did you have for breakfast? what you eating? cheesiness), we only speak if needed but give each other time during the evening since we're both in different cities and can often speak on the phone for 4-5 hours.
1 thing though, you will definitely get to experience his mood swings.. ask him whats wrong, show that you care and are there for him and ask him to talk it through with you and if he gets rattled and annoyed BACK OFF!! its for your own good...lol.
