Any advice from people who are married to people who are getting married?
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Will you really , really follow the advice ?
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Will you really , really follow the advice ?
if it's good advice then yes..:) an im sure u can only give good advice....
btw should we call u Mirch Uncle now?
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Isn't it too late for you now ?
We celebrate Thankgiving and New Years with our kids.
I don't celebrate Christmas because I feel it is a religious holiday. (or Hannakah, or Diwali) etc
I am teaching my kids about the holidays and they can participate in Christmas parties at school etc but we don't get them a tree or put up lights or anything.
I think every family has to find their own balance.
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if it's good advice then yes..:) an im sure u can only give good advice....
btw should we call u Mirch Uncle now?
Before getting married please make sure that you are marrying a person you want to. Do not give in to any kind of pressure. Love is always blind , so when that love reaches to the point where you want to tie the knott , you need to find out what you like and dislike about the person you love you might find out that there are more dislikes as compared to likes.
After the wedding , respect each other. Give each other space. Respect each others family no matter what.
Naam main kia rakha hay. I do not mind if someone calls me bhai, uncle , dada , nana etc etc
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^^ lol mirch bhai @dada nana itne burdhe hogae hain
anyways i dont think ppl really follow any advise or suggestions... only time can teach u..otherwise there wuldnt hve been any divorce cases..any separation bla bla cases...
only a few ppl learn from the examples...most of us learn from self experience..
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Golden advice Mirch bhai!
and citrine one can also learn much from the sunnah of Prophet (pbuh). :)
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surely they can..
per how many learn anything from sunnah ?? i guess hardly any
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Marry one who you feel will be your true partner in life. Everything else is small in comparison. If you're married to a partner - one who shares the same hopes, dreams, aspirations, expectations then everything else will work itself out one way or another.
I married a partner. We;ve overcome difference in religion and culture - the biggies that many fear in cross-cultural relationships. We've also overcome infertility, difficult family members, difficult family situations.
You can accomplish ANYthing when you have a life-partner and soul-mate.
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my advise~ lov is blind, what u may think is true lov might just be in ur imagination. when picking a life partner u should see if the person is compatible with urself. sometimes the person we lov is not always the right choice for us....
it's best to Marry the person who lovs you, not to the person u lov.....
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Never ever ever drag each other's families into a fight! :)
Family is OFF limits.
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dont discuss ur personal issues (hubby/wife issues) with ur families. We never discuss our finances or other fights we have with our parents.
Dont bring up the past.. whats the past is past and cant be changed.. so dont bring that into our arguments. U can laugh about that stuff, but dont try to use as points to win an argument.
Be nice to one another, appreciate each other.. let the other know how much u love them. Dont wait for them to tell you. Let go of ur ego.. and be a team. Ur individuals but to make a marriage work, u have to work as one.
dont discuss ur personal issues (hubby/wife issues) with ur families.
Dont bring up the past.. whats the past is past and cant be changed.. so dont bring that into our arguments. U can laugh about that stuff, but dont try to use as points to win an argument.
Be nice to one another, appreciate each other.. let the other know how much u love them. Dont wait for them to tell you. Let go of ur ego.. and be a team. Ur individuals but to make a marriage work, u have to work as one.
Very appropriate points, golden.
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Always respect each other and each other's family
Never fight in public and never bring ur day to day issues to parents/families
never cheat.. honesty and loyality is a key to successful marriage, because these qualities build trust between spouses.
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Oh it's definately (8 years and 2 kids later mA) too late for me Mirch! :) Just thought it would be interesting to hear points of view
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And I am very open to good advice
dont discuss ur personal issues (hubby/wife issues) with ur families. We never discuss our finances or other fights we have with our parents.
That is really good advice. I think parents tend to worry too much and it in their heads it is a bigger deal that it really is.
^^ lol mirch bhai @dada nana itne burdhe hogae hain
anyways i dont think ppl really follow any advise or suggestions... only time can teach u..otherwise there wuldnt hve been any divorce cases..any separation bla bla cases...
only a few ppl learn from the examples...most of us learn from self experience..
I disagree - I tend to listen to advice. I have friends that make their own mistakes and learn from that. I also have friends that make mistakes and don't even learn from that.
my advise~ lov is blind, what u may think is true lov might just be in ur imagination. when picking a life partner u should see if the person is compatible with urself. sometimes the person we lov is not always the right choice for us....
it's best to Marry the person who lovs you, not to the person u lov.....
I agreeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!