I’m a 19 year old girl from England and I was with my boyfriend for almost 2 years but before that we were best friends for 3 years or so. He told me he liked me almost a year into our friendship but I was afraid we would mess things up if we got into a relationship and that way we would lose our friendship as well. Sadly enough that’s exactly what has happened.
After 2 years together I fount out he was flirting with other girls. I broke it off with him straight away and he apologized to me saying he loved me and blaah blaah blaah but I was too angry and my pride was too much swallow. Its been over a year since then and I stopped all contact with him. Since then I’ve had plenty of guys who have been interested in me but I’m so cynical and skeptical of guys which I know isn’t fair to them. I know its time to let go off the past but for some reason I’m still holding onto it tightly. like a complete and utter fool…Any advice would be appreciated:sid:
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oh..you are from england......... i am a very good guy........ alas we can't be together :(
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How about, get over it? :)
But honestly, getting over someone or something, starts simply with
1- wanting to
2- doing it
There is a saying by Hazrat Ali which goes something like, if you want to be something, pretend that you are, one day you will be that naturally.
So act your **** off. You'll get there.
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oh..you are from england......... i am a very good guy........ alas we can't be together :(
Yeah, I wonder why
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I think I’ve done a pretty good job of convincing people around me that I’m over it all. I guess I’m just waiting for the day that I actually am over him.
and Nomi I may live England bu believe it or not I’ve got plenty of enemies in Lahore.
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Are you clingy?
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Nah it was actually the opposite. He was kind of possessive and clingy. I was too chilled out and trusting.
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Guys....Such * really really bad swearword*
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You're 19? Surely you must know other guys to meet/parties to go to/etc etc?
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Considering your experience at this young age, don't know what to say. Unfortunately, you are trying to put medicine in the wrong place, not where the actual wound is, after getting wounded so early in practical life. Many boys want to taste a share of you (as you mentioned), and you need to be careful in reserving/saving yourself for the one who is actually serious about having a long term relationship (leading to marriage) with you (from the beginning). How serious you are in seeking a true life partner (without giving a part of yourself to any boyfriend turned ex) would determine how different advises here would help you.
Because advice is like a chapati that can only be cooked on a pan (person) that is hot (serious) enough to cook (implement) it, otherwise it would be a wasted effort, no matter how many times you try different types of chapattis on a cold pan.
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What is the most clingy thing he has ever done? :D
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Yes I'm 19. Lol I don't go to parties. I attract plenty of guys but unfortunately I seem to attract all the wrong ones.
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Fiind some other guy & divert your concentration :D
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I think the best way to get over him will be to socialise more... Meet new people. It's always fun and interesting. This doesn't have to be at a bar or some club. It could be anywhere...this will make you feel better and happier which in turn who knows you might someone decent?
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I love your comment and I totally agree. That’s the thing although I’m not majorly Islamic I do know the basic between whats right and wrong. I don’t want to waste time with the wrong guys. I just want a decent guy but it seems like all the decent guys have disappeared. :o I get hounded by guys who simply have a one track mind.
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I have a cousin I’m very close to who I think of as a brother and he tried to ban me from seeing him. He also scared of all my guy friends by threatening them on my facebook.
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That's pretty wierd, he did that while he himself could flirt with other women?
Did your parents know about this relationship?
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Some are attracted to inner beauty, while others to the outer decoration. Its up to you to know/realize what priorities you want in life and how things should proceed towards your future. So that tomorrow you may take the responsibility of what happens to you and what you become, instead of searching false relief in blaming others. Nature knows whom to reward and whom to punish in future, for the respective choices that they make in their life today. Those who take exams seriously/positively and work smart in the right direction bearing the pain of discipline, only those get good result. But those who avoid discipline today, later blame others for their own destiny, and hence don't learn from their mistakes. Instead, they keep repeating it, and at the same time, calling this world a cruel place.
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That's my point exactly. He was so insecure about the attention other guys gave me and yet I gave him no reason whatsoever to complain. However I wasn't suspicious at all of him. I believe a relationship can't work without trust.
My mum knew about it..
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I have to say nowadays unfortunately very few people look at inner beauty which is a shame considering that’s what I look for and it annoys me that people are superficial enough to think only about looks and money..