I am engaged. and i think i should show a specific behavior before my in laws. they should to know wt i am. I hv seen my girls who tries to show different before their in laws that they aren’t exactly.
I want to know my all guppans here who r marries or engaged. how much they be or was careful during these days.
i am used to browse the tips or fashion on the net. I hv an account on fb as well. we add the people who talk them on net. the girls who r committed also avoid like this who no?
Should i talk to new person on net or should avoid for those whom i was talking on net.???
Re: advice for committed
1) With my in-laws, I'm polite, respectful, but not too chatty. His parents live in a different state so we usually visit them once every few months for a weekend or so (so far I've gone 3x). B/C they don't live near me.....as a guest in their house, I behave as a guest. I try to ask general questions to show my interest in them and their life, I offer to help his mom in the kitchen....always try to keep a pleasant demeanor......and that's it.
Although if your in-laws will be living near you OR its going to be a joint-family situation, then I suppose your behavior would be different since you'll be interacting with them often (ie. harder to hide "true self).
2) Regarding the 2nd part. Umm...even before when I was single...I never chatted with random guys online (I've interacted with them in forums...but never anything in private). I don't add guys OR girls I don't know in-real-life on FB. As a girl, I see no issues with getting to know/meeting other girls online. But even if I was single, I wouldn't be going around meeting random guys online. Although I will add that since fiance & I become a serious couple.....I haven't made any new "guy friends". And my fiance also....he keeps in contact with girls he was already friends with....but he's also severely cut back on interacting with any new girls he meets.
Re: advice for committed
You don't want to put on a show of being something you aren't but I think it's also important to watch your behaviour at the early stages of the relationship. I talk about general things with my in laws. We will probably be living with our in laws for a while until we have our own place so I guess then I will be able to relax a little and be myself.
I don't talk to any guys beyond those that I need to talk to, be they old friends who my fiance knows about, work colleagues or family friends. I don't add randomers on my facebook. I think it's best to protect yourself from speaking to people you don't know on the internet, they're not part of your real life so you don't need to talk to them!
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Well I don’t have fb - for reasons other than being engaged. But I think you should limit talking to the opposite gender, not because there is anything wrong in it, but because of the desi mentallity.
Btw, since being engaged, my Mum has become super-protective, to the point where what I am wearing is an issue.
My Dad, on the other hand, is more on the relaxed side, he gives me free reign. 
As for the in-laws, I don’t act any differently than how I acted before. I act like I would act in front of any other guests.
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thanx for good advice. and i like all of ur advice.
actually i hv also stooped talking with guys on net from last 2 years. but i was with one guys who is 2 years younger than me. we never share anything personal related to home problems. we just talk abut general issue in our country , then he got the job, he became busy. now he know i am engaged. and he also told me he likes someone else. But now some times he talks like flirting mean "ap kahn thay itna dekha kro koi ap ka inetzar kr rah hota hai?'" i didn't take it serious caz it could be just a joke. but last time he asked me a question that shocked me.
he asked" ap ko kaisa lgat hai agr ap ki shadi meri sath paki ho jati''". he said that i was just kidding it was joke or bla bla. but after this he didn't talk to me much.
now i am thinking to stop talking with him. or some times i thought may be he was really kidding or going to judge himself as a lover for his gf. i am confuse.
Re: advice for committed
You're over analyzing the issue.
If you want to continue talking to him, then that's fine. Next time he makes a "joke" like that....just let him know that you find it inappropriate and if he wants to continue the friendship, he needs to stop making similar jokes.
If he continues to make jokes that make you uncomfortable AFTER that....then end all contact.
Re: advice for committed
thanx for good advice. and i like all of ur advice. actually i hv also stooped talking with guys on net from last 2 years. but i was with one guys who is 2 years younger than me. we never share anything personal related to home problems. we just talk abut general issue in our country , then he got the job, he became busy. now he know i am engaged. and he also told me he likes someone else. But now some times he talks like flirting mean "ap kahn thay itna dekha kro koi ap ka inetzar kr rah hota hai?'" i didn't take it serious caz it could be just a joke. but last time he asked me a question that shocked me. he asked" ap ko kaisa lgat hai agr ap ki shadi meri sath paki ho jati''". he said that i was just kidding it was joke or bla bla. but after this he didn't talk to me much.
now i am thinking to stop talking with him. or some times i thought may be he was really kidding or going to judge himself as a lover for his gf. i am confuse.
stop talking with him.
Re: advice for committed
I have to say I agree with STA, you should stop talking to him. Why would anyone say anything like that, even if it is a joke? Also, you said he 'sometimes' flirts, so he has done it more than once? If he knows you are engaged, then why does he talk in such a manner? If I were you, alarm bells would start ringing in my head - I would distance myself. It may be harmless fun from his side, but really, I would be freak out and switch off all contact.
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clarify pu-leej
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hmmm. thanx. I will give him alarm bell to talk with me like that. and better now to make distance. thanx
Re: advice for committed
I think should be good or polite with in laws. and never be silent before them spcially when they r wrong. but speak politely.
I hv another question regarding ur other question to u or all other one when u talk to a ny guy on net for such long time as a friend , if u met with him coincidentally with ur husband, then wt would be ur reaction? or wt should be/