Adventures of my younger son.

Monk · November 15, 2011, 3:36pm

Re: Adventures of my younger son.

It is too long . Please do not proceed if you do not like long posts .

I give my kids maximum possible liberties.
I make sure that they know what is wrong and what is right.
I let them make their own decisions.
I let them do most of the things they are expected to do at their age, like going to bed late over the weekends , waking up late in mornings, sleep overs .
Let them eat whatever they want to , whenever they want to . Do not force them to do house hold chores , just ask them and make sure the are doing it voluntarily not by force
This is a dream life for a teenager.I make sure that they have everything a teenager has to have to look cool in front of their friends.

So there is no reason for them to go rebellious or break the trust. But he did .

So this is what I have done:
Netnanny on computers , previously I was letting him use my userid and password.
No car for him , he needs to go to school by bus and ride the bus back home.
Supervised socialization with friends only for one day over the weekends.
Cell phone can be used only when he uses it in the family room.
No monetary allowance , I will buy every thing and anything he needs.

All this in place till he improves his grades and rebuilds that trust we had in him. There is no time limit for these sanctions on him.

He agreed to it all because I told him he has two choices:

I take him to the court and put all the proofs in front of a judge and tell the judge this guy does not want to live a family life , he does not want to follow the rules and I do not want to be arrested for child abandonment by kicking him out so he needs to be put in a foster home.

Or if he still wants to live with us in this family and enjoy a good family life , he need to follow thru on each and every word of mine and live happily ever after.

He opted for the second. He is only 16 years old , what choice does he has ?

So my question anything wrong with this picture ? Any more tips and tricks ?

Dude give his charge to his mother ASAP.
You and him sound like 2 teen age boys, not a good situation.