Adoption

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idk if there is a thread already on this…

  1. would you adopt a child?

yes/no…explain :slight_smile:

also..please throw in what Islam says about it… kinda needed some more information on this

  1. Scenario: Within family adoptions…like giving your siblings/cousins your child if they don’t have kids.

major complications or a blessing?

Working on a cultural paper…so any input is appreciated. Gracias!

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1) I really want to BUT I will not if I have my own.

Many reasons including:

-most important: fear of being unfair to the child (I might be fair, but I have no control over others like my husband, my parents or in-laws who might favor their 'blood')
-possibility of molestation (by other family members. It already happens fairly often even when the child is not adopted. Can't take that risk)
-the na-mahram thing according to religion unless the child is breastfed.

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**yes, tehre was a thread on thsi topic.

in Islam, there is NO adoption but u can take a child in, raise the way u want. this is in order to protect the rights of ur own biological children. after a person is dead his wealth goes to his children. sometimes parents revoke this thru legal documents but its NOT permissable in islamic laws of inheritance. the adopted child has no legal right over the inheritance. u can give him in ur life whatever u please and after ur death u r entitled to give 6% of ur wealth to anyone.

so, islamically, u can NOT adopt a child and i will NOT legally adopt ever. i will NOT hesitate to take an orphan under my folds and raise him.**

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really? plz explain
any quranic references?

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i don't have the references handy but its like ABC of islamic jurisprudence. i knew that from childhood.

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oh i was thinking on some other lines. as in adoption is not allowed at all since a na-mehram cannot live with. but i got it now.

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whats the difference between 'legal adoption' and 'take an orphan under your fold'??

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The first one comes with a stamp on the babies forehead saying property of so and so.
The second one allows you to grab any kid you want and say "this brat is now my kid".
The first one is better because you get a stamp. Two for the price of one.

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i think legally means by law u get a birth certificate for the kid which has your name. in islam the adoptive kid is meant to go by his biological father’s name not adoptive father. and “take an orphan under your fold” means just upbringing him/her as long as you are going by the islamic adoption rules…(but i am confused as to kids who’s real father name isnot known at all…can they go with their adoptive father’s name?

this is good.
http://islam.about.com/cs/parenting/a/adoption.htm

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I have already discussed this topic here .. >> http://www.paklinks.com/gs/religion-and-scripture/441372-child-adoption.html

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^ Thanks T1000...very helpful!

hmm so basically no legal adoption...but if wanted, can take someone in. lolz.. professor will love my little summary.

thanks everyone for your input! :)

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if i can afford to give a prosperous live style definitely i will adopt even if i will have my own
it is my pleasure

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I would never adopt, I would do long term fostering instead.