I’ve always been keen on helping people out and in the back of my mind ive always believed adoption would be the best way to help someone out…and with my divorce and all, ive decided remarriage just isnt for me. My question is how hard would it be for me to adopt like 5 years from now (ill be 26 then)… im sure it would be harder in te US as opposed to developing countries. Any and all comments would be appreciated considering I dont even now HOW to get involved in the process. Serious answers only please.
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do u hav kids already.i mean its not easy to b a single parent.
ur answers only some related person like an adoption center/lawyer can giv.i did hear that it takes lots of yrs to bring in adopted kids to canada.
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Mr Frauds can help u with that Sabriya
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i know couple of plp who had adopted children from pakistan and brought them down here in usa. and they had to go through alot of paper work and stuff. its hard in the begining but later everything works out well. Thats really nice of u thinkin like that, but as a single mom u kinda get this feeling of doing something good but u know wat if ur financially good and work ur life with kids alone then i would say go 4 it, but if not then theres gona be a consecounces.. think all around before u take this step,, plz dont mind i can visualize ur kindness..
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Id assume that preference is given to couples...adoption agencies naturally prefer the nuclear family scenario...and another thing to concern yourself with is your finances and capability of looking after a child alone...
Sorry to hear your divorced...but maybe fiove years down the line you may change your mind about the remarriage thing...
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Raising kids is a humbling and fullfilling experience. Wheneever u adopt, make sure you are ready for it. Many people adopt kids but cannot keep up with responsibilities, end up giving the kid back te adopted and this is worse for the kid than never to have been adopted.
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.......... u sounds so kind-hearted and generous , but i think that the idea of child- adoption is too young for yr age ( just 21), have u ever spend time with any newborn or infant ?? u need to do that , i suggest better practise yr hands at it for sometime ( ........ i've seen young married girls baby sitting infants , before starting a family of their own , just to get the feel ) ........ this might help u to experience the pros + cons of adoption befor going for one.....
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Iconoclast i know one such close example.they adopted kid from within family,spoilt him to last end n now when hes totally impossible at an age of just 11yrs they ask his family to take him back n they say u spoilt him,u keep him.
so pathetic
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^ insanity at it's extreme.................
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Iconoclast i know one such close example.they adopted kid from within family,spoilt him to last end n now when hes totally impossible at an age of just 11yrs they ask his family to take him back n they say u spoilt him,u keep him. so pathetic
Oh my god thats crazy!
Sabriya i think adoption and being able to giving a child a loving secure is an incredible thing. U r still young and many things can change in 5 years. Sorry to hear abt ur divorce. But ur young and so much can happen in 5 yrs. See how u feel in the future.
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Sabriya, I work as an adoption Social Worker in the UK and from what I've read of Frauds' journal, the american system is very similar to the canadian/british system.
It's actually a lot simpler and more straight forward (not to mention cheaper) to go for domestic adoption than intercountry adoption ... mostly because Local Authrities have responsibility towards children living within their county, not those living thousands of miles away.
You being a single carer won't amtter, infact some workers (myself included) prefer single adopters for some of the children we family find for.
I wouldn't worry about finances if you're going for domestic adoption ... aslong as u can prove you'll be able to provide for the child. You can sometimes get an adoption allowance, especially with tehe 'more difficult to place' children.
Wish you the best of luck, it's a very noble thing to do
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To answer some of the questions above: no I dont have any kids, yes I have tons of experience with kids... I have a 6 year old brother and my stepmother was really sick after he was born so I dealt alot with changings, feedings, bathing him, etc... As far as 'returning' the kid goes, Astaghfirullah! No one gives up or even thinks of giving up their natural kid so just bcuz it wont be mine genetically doesn't mean I could do such a thing. Generally speaking, how long will it take? If I start after 4 years will I probably get him/her or them :D hehe after a year or so??